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What is the Deal?
My husband's female co-workers insist on telling him how to dress and what to buy...
Apparently this morning, one person told him to get a specific cologne because she dislikes the one he has. Uhhh...seriously?
I was rather miffed when I found out and wasn't sure if I was just being irrational today but the more I think about it, the more annoyed I get.
Is it me or should people just mind their own?
Re: What is the Deal?
No, if it were someone much older than us I don't think I'd be bothered by any of it. This person is just a few years older and is also married.
My husband doesn't wear cologne to work and really doesn't wear it much at all. I used to buy it for him when we were dating in high school and college but I haven't bought any in ages.
She's been giving him "advice" for several months now and it hasn't really bugged me until today. I think the cologne talk put me over the edge because I don't ever see myself trying to improve someone else's husband. Mine's pretty wonderful and doesn't need much tweaking so I don't get where she's coming from.
And I don't know that it's "advice" that she's giving. It's like she's trying to make him over or something and isn't that kind of odd?
Odd. Maybe she is trying to be subtle that he needs to wear cologne to work or dress more professional? This is just strange to me. H's work environment is polos, jeans and sneakers. H's coworkers know it's time for laundry when he starts to dress nice.
How does your H feel about this lady and how does he handle it when she says these things?
My H is really friendly and talks to everyone so he's not bothered by it at all. He works in a corporate office so the dress code is business casual.
He wears nice clothes to work: dress pants and dress shirts with no tie, but he did start buying some designer clothing due to prompting. I have no problem with him dressing more professionally or even spending more on clothing, but I tried all through high school for him to be open to certain styles, and he never cared until now.
He'd never cheat on me or anything, but I've never met this other person and she seems really manipulative. It's tough because impressions are everything to his co-workers so even if I did meet her, I'd have to be fake and totally saccharine about it.
Well it's good it doesn't bother him. Just try to ignore this lady for now. It doesn't sound like his relationship with her is dangerous just odd to me. Could she be his mentor?
I tried getting my H to try new foods all through high school and college but he wouldn't but if someone else offered he would try. It drove me crazy. It's like he tuned me out when it came to food. He would come to me and rave about the pork chops he just had but refused to eat the ones I made for years up until this point. He tries things now when he feels like it and it doesn't matter who suggests it. Maybe your H is doing a version of this? It could also be so he can fit in and make a good impression on everyone.
I second this :-)!
This sounds to me like lame banter coworkers sometimes have with each other rather than real feedback. I had a gay coworker once who was my "work husband" and we used to tease each other about clothes the other was wearing.
I'm guessing if your husband wanted her to mind her own business it wouldn't be hard to get her to stop.