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My poll of the day: Strippers
What are your thoughts on your spouse going to a strip club? How does your spouse feel about you going to one?
Re: My poll of the day: Strippers
DH has gone once or twice for bachelor parties in the past 5 years or so, and while I am not thrilled about it, I don't really make a big deal about it. Luckily he is not the type to go to one for any other reason than that.
I think the last time I went to one was for a girlfriends bachelorette party and it was at least 6 or 7 years ago. DH kind of thinks it is silly but he didn't make a big deal about me going.
I would have a problem if DH liked to go recreationally.
Funny you ask this question, the other night we had dinner with friends and my friend brought up strip clubs and about how you must BYOB and they take your beer and serve it to you, you should tip them for serving YOUR beer and whatever you don't finish, they keep. I think that's totally lame and I think going to the strip club is a waste of $$.(Although I'm not sure if this the case at all strip clubs that they are BYOB). Anyone know??
I'm okay with DH wants to go to the strip club for a bachelor party and I know he is fine if I go for a bachelorette party, but if he started to going on a monthly basis I would be pissed.
DH has gone in the past for bachelor parties and it doesn't bother me at all. I would think it was shady if he lied about going or went all the time or something like that.
I haven't gone in years but my gf's and I used to love going to the Hangar Club and we'd have a blast. IMO, guys dancing is not really about sex but about girls getting drunk and letting loose. I think DH would just laugh if I said I was going there now.
This whole topic stemmed from one of my friends forbidding her fiance's friends from taking him to a strip club for his bachelor party. I just don't see what the big deal is. I would much rather him be honest and have fun with his friends.
I'm not okay with DH going. I know he used to go with his guy friends when he was single and he's gone to a couple bachelor parties since we've been together (including his own) that were at strip clubs. If another bachelor party comes up, I won't go so far as to forbid him from going, but I don't like it and he's aware of that. It comes too close to crossing a line IMO.
I've only been to a strip club once (it was more like a show at a bar) and I thought it was awkward. I don't know how DH would feel about me going but I just can't see that situation ever coming up.
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I have been there more than a few times in my early 20s. Its so cheesy/tacky, but we always had a blast. Also I just wanted to say I think male strippers are pretty harmless because its more about like you said, letting loose, having silly fun and the guys know it.
Frankly, I don't like it. I used to be ok with it until a guy I was dating broke up with me for a stripper. (He was a Psych major and I think was attracted to her problems and her abusive boyfriend.) We were living together at the time and drama ensued.
At any rate, I'm a bit insecure and sour on the whole issue. I wouldn't say "no" for a bachelor party, but DH knows how I feel.
DH thinks it's a waste of money and weird. You go with a bunch of guys to look at attractive girls and get all hot-and-bothered and then leave with those guys. He was taken to one by his best man for his bachelor party. At that point, they had all been drinking and DH was complaining loudly that he had to be "felt up by some fat guy" to get it. Apparently, they left shortly-thereafter.
My husband's never been. And I know if this was a National board, someone would pat me on the head and say "okay, believe what you want honey," but he has no reason to lie to me about it, so I trust that he's being honest. He thinks they're skanky and dirty and just doesn't see the appeal. He likes the ladies 'n' all, but we all know the internet can provide whatever recreational viewing one might want.
I'm not a big fan of strip joints and probably wouldn't really dig it if E wanted to go. But it wouldn't be as big of an issue as it would have been early in our relationship. I wouldn't "forbid" him to go because we're adults in a relationship, not parent/child - I have no right to forbid him to do something. And if he really wanted to, he'd go regardless. It may cause a temporary issue, but it wouldn't be a huge fight or a deal breaker.
I have zero desire to go to a strip club. If I did, E wouldn't give a crap.
I don't love the idea of DH going, but wouldn't forbid him to go for a bachelor party. He doesn't really care for strip clubs; like LLHR said, all that stuff is on the Internet. I'm glad that going has never been a priority of his.
He wouldn't care if I went, we have been to a female strip club together before (a looooong time ago) and he knows that I saw chippendales live in Vegas for my bachelorette party. Not that that's the same as going to a male strip club. I have no desire to be out clubbing or bar-hopping anymore (man, I'm old) so if I told him I was going to one he'd probably be more shocked than anything.
Meh - if he did that on occassion or for bachelor parties, I wouldn't have an issue with ith.
If he's going regularly, that would be weird and obviously something's amiss.
I've never been to one and don't really have a strong desire to either.
Ditto. H has only been a few times, maybe 5, since we started dating about 8 years ago. Every now and then for a bachelor party, whatever. More than that I would have issues with. I've both been to a club and had strippers come to house parties a few times in college and for bachelorette parties, and he hasn't minded.
DH has been before but finds them awkward and uncomfortable. He actually went to one a few weekends ago and ended up leaving the other 2 guys there because he doesn't like being in strip clubs.
I, on the other hand, have no problem going to them. I don't want boobies and poon in my face, but seeing nekid woman doesn't make me uncomfortable. It's not that I go to them every weekend and in fact, it's been many moons since I have been to one (probably 5 years) but I'm not uncomfortable in them. A goup of us (guys and girls) would go back in our college years every now and then...in fact, one of our bar crawl events used to incorporate one of the clubs in Dundalk along the route. It is what it is.
I definitely understand why some people have problems with them. To each their own. Some of the women working are legitimately trying to make an honest living and some are on the pole to support bad habits. Everyone has their vices and it's not up to me to stop someone from working.
Wait! Wait! Wait!
Shouldn't this thread be titled "Pole of the day"?
Sorry. I had to.
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I havent been on here in a while at it funny this was posted. DH is recovering from a nasty handover from a bachelor party. They went to several strip clubs (his 1st time). I was not ok with it but I didnt give him a hard time. When the girls would sit next to him he told them "no thanks im married" one girl he said got pissed off because he asked her how her family felt about her career choice!
Although he did not like it I still feel weird about the whole night. I just feel uncomfortable with the fact that he went someplace where they pay to watch naked women all night.
Its not his kind of thing but he didnt want to look bad by not going.
I have no desire to go to a strip club.
That was a douchey thing to do. Of course she got pissed off.