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Opposite Schedules
Hey everyone! Ok so my husband and I have been on opposite schedules since December of 2010, I work 7:30am-4pm M-F and he works 3pm-11:30pm W-Sun. While I was planning the wedding it was a little difficult but I was so busy all the time, so it wasn't that big of a deal. My mom and my sister would go to all my appointments with me (cus lets be honest he really didn't want to go to the florist), and he made it to the important ones that required his services. But now that we are married and I'm trying to unpack our new apartment i'm finding his schedule just totally unbearable! We talk on the phone all the time and text all day long, but I'm just not feeling how I think I should be feeling after being married for 3 weeks. The other thing is that when we do have time off together his work calls and emails him non-stop and then it makes him mad and ruins our time together. Am I just going crazy or is this something other people are experiencing?
Re: Opposite Schedules
Our schedules are pretty opposite. H works Monday through Friday 4pm - 1am and I work Friday 8am-4pm, Saturday and Sunday 8am - 8pm and a weeknight here or there. I go to the gym at 5am on weekdays, come home and get our two year old up and H gets up around 10am, I'll usually nap around 11. Date nights are few and far between.
We get through by realizing its only temporary, and making the most of the time we do get together. We also try to give each other time to go out and do their own thing as much as we can. It's important to spend time together, but it's also important to have time to yourself, or with friends.
Ahhh, I hate opposite schedules. My fiance and I are experiencing that right now, and we have a baby. It is the worst! I feel for you. Just know that all this time apart makes you value the time you guys actually do spend together and let him know that while work is very important, it is also important that he cherish the time he has off and with you. No work calls or emails unless they are of high importance! I always have to remind myself that work can wait. I only have one life and a short amount of time here with my loved ones, each day counts and you need to make each one the best day possible.
But also, say to yourself "This is only temporary!" because it is. You guys will figure something out!
Okay, so my work schedule is 7-4 M-F, but I have a 90 mile / 1 and a half commute (without traffic). My fiance works swing shift, so one week he is on days 6-4 M-F and then nights 8-6 S-H. Now this is if he doesn't have to work additional OT, some days it's 12 hours and then the weekends. He's gone to work 7 weeks straight, which was ridiculous. So it's nice that we do have some time together, but my job can be pretty demanding, so sometimes I get calls or emails on the weekend that I take care of and then I'm done. I don't let it ruin the rest of my time with him. Your H needs to keep that in mind, that although he's getting called and emailed, once it's done and the issue is resolved he still has time to spend with you.
OMG I share your pain! I'm sitting here on a Saturday night by my self....a typical Saturday. My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 months now but he's had this shift of working Tues - Sat.'s from 3-11pm. He walks to work and leaves at 2pm to get there at 2:30pm, for the last 4 years. I HATE his schedule always have but his office area needs him during this time frame.
Only thing that helps is I stop by to see him from time to time. I work M-F 6:30am - 3:00pm. I have to get to bed around 10pm now to get up in time. So when he gets home around 12am I'm already passed out.
So we only get some Saturday am's. Sundays or Monday nights. Most of the time he doesn't even want to do things on Sundays so it's very frustrating for me. We do try and call each other while I'm at work, but it's always me calling him first. I get very lonely a lot of nights. It's good when my parents stop by during the week or I can catch up with a friend from time to time.
I just wish he would find a new job but it's hard for him given his medical issues.