June 2012 Weddings
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Kids!
I was at a picnic on Sunday and my aunt asked when my H and I want to have kids. I told her we want to wait 3 years or so and she went on about how half my eggs are going to be gone by 30 (in 3 years). So I told her I wasn't just going to have a kid because of the chance of my eggs not being as good. We have so much we still want to do before. This question seems so fast especially bc we haven't even been married for 2 months yet!
Other than those who already have kids or are pregnant, have you already been getting the "so when are kids coming?" question yet?
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Re: Kids!
i was asked that about a week after me and DH got engaged. My MIL has grandchild fever. Which proves to be really annoying for me. We want to wait too. except we want to wait about 6 or 7 years. ( im 21) so that would make me about 28... so i guess my eggs will be bad too!! ( i really wouldn't worry about that! )
When people hear we wanna wait that long... they freak out! but i really don't care. Having children is a personal decision between husband and wife!
Wow a week after engagement is crazy! I'm not very worried about my eggs haha my aunt is alittle nutty and it's not surprising that she would say something like that. She would be the person that wouldn't understand that it's a personal choice when you want to have kids.
I just think it's crazy that for the 3 1/2 yrs that my husband were dating before marriage it wasn't asked once and a month after marriage everyone wants to know when I'm going to get pregnant.
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I am totally guilty of this. I ask because I am excited for them and their new life together..... I would assume, for most people, they are intending it as an invasive thing... just an excited thing. However, since people have asked me since the wedding and I AM pregnant but we havent told yet I do understand how it IS invasive.... I dont lie, but I cant tell people before H and I are ready to tell, ya know? It just really makes it uncomfortable!
I know most people don't intend to be invasive....I think I am just sick of the question. I'll have babies when it happens! We don't have a plan on babies! I don't know how you're doing it!!! I am a terrible liar. I wouldn't be able to keep a straight face if someone asked me and I was already pregnant!
On other news, H and I have a friend and we have suspected she is preggers since my bachelorette party when she didn't drink anything (and she is one of our booziest friends so it was really strange!) Just confirmed the other day she is preggers via a facebook picture of her at her baby shower back home.....H called her hubby to congratulate and was told that it's still a secret and nobody's supposed to know yet! Whoever posted that photo is gonna be sorry.....
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Yeah its really uncomfortable- I am a terrible liar and I just dont lie in general... so its been rough. What I normally say is ASAP then change the subject- that's not a lie right?
That is super exciting about your friend.. but uh oh to the FB pic.... I would be VERY upset!!
Definitely not a lie....total truth!!
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This is me too. Mostly other people who had children young.
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I guess since I'm 33 all my good eggs are gone already.
We're going to start trying at the end of November. We haven't had people ask too much though.
Yeah, people didn't wait until after the wedding to ask. We were getting the question not long after being engaged. Showing off pictures of us holding our niece and nephew got remarks like "Oh look at how perfect that picture is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and "Bet you can't wait to have your own!!!!!!!!!!"
Yes actually, I can wait to have my own. We're waiting around 2 years at least.
Congrats!! Very exciting news.
So far we have been asked a couple times by friends and my mom has hinted that she would like a granddaughter; she has 2 grandson's now, lol. We are still trying to decide when we will start trying.
Yea I'm sure every woman who had kids after 30 would agree with my crazy aunt! ::sarcasm::
This is sooo me right now, too!!
Heh - we're older (I'm 36, H is 44), which may be why no one is harassing us about kids. We're planning on starting to TTC within a few months, because we would like to have kids before we become 100% elderly. My mom and sister know we'd like to have kids, but we haven't really discussed it with anyone else. H says he thinks his parents probably assume that we're already too old. Whatever.
I have a lot of friends who have had kids in their 30s (and are having them as we speak - honestly this is the pregnancy summer, I swear), so it doesn't seem odd to me, but I know it probably will to some folks.
We're getting asked this a lot, we are planning on about 4 years. I wanted to wait 5, DH wanted 3, so we compromised. I turned 24 in June, so I think that's a good age to start. I'm not concerned about my eggs because my mother had me at 36 and my sister at 38, my grandmother's mother had her at 44! So I'm hoping that fertility is genetic!
Also, this is ridiculous, but since I've been on the pill so long and that prevents you from releasing an egg every month, I kind of feel like I have a lot stored up. When I'm being rational I know that they can still not be GOOD eggs, obviously you don't expel all your eggs in your lifetime, but it just sort of comforts me sometimes to think that I might have some extra. 7 years of birth control times 12 eggs a year would be 84 eggs saved - I only need a couple!
My ILs really want grandkids (FIL wished us great fertility during his toast--he doesn't know that I don't want bio children!), but we've got sort of a competition going with my H's brother and his wife to see who can hold off the longest! When we visited them at Christmas, instead of leaving a "Thank You" card, we left a "Congratulations on you new baby!" card, or something like that. When we arrived at our HM destination and started unpacking, we discovered that they'd slipped a baby towel into H's duffel bag with a note: "From Uncle and Auntie." Hilarious...