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Since there is talk about kids
Since the subject of kids came up, I have a question for those of your with children, expecting children....what are the things that people never tell you about being pregnant and having children?
I have always thought that we wouldn't have any, but now I think that it would be nice to have one; mabye two. However I am a worry wort and have anxiety, so I'm nervous how everything goes. I also have a fear of hospitals; but wouldn't ever do the at home midwive thing.
Any info would be awesome. Thanks 
Re: Since there is talk about kids
I don't really have any specific questions as I'm not too sure where to start, lol. Everytime I've ever heard someone talk about being pregnant, they always say how beautoiful and amazing it is. I get that it's amazing , but I want to know the not so nice things like what exactly happens to your body, how your actually feel everyday, what morning sickness is like, how bad labor truly is and how long it takes your body to recover from labor.
Once the little one arrives, how do you know what to do? I 'm sure everyone has instincts on things, but how long does it take to adjust to know exactly what the baby needs and when; ie: that cry means ther are hungry, that cry means that pooped in their diaper.
This things may seem pretty basic, but like I said I'm nervous and want to make sure I cross all my t's and dot my i's before we decide 100% that we can do this.
Ok.... I will do my best to explain my experiences. But please remember, every pregnancy is different and every person is different
Pregnancy: Morning sickness stinks. With my first pregnancy, I felt hung over everyday.. I was starving, but the look and smell of food made me want to puke- yet I never puked. This time around, I felt a lot worse and I puked, A LOT. The first time I was pregnant it lasted from about 7-14 weejs.... this time around it lasted from 5-15 weeks. The other "bad" part of pregnancy is the exhaustion.... its a killer. I could have slept allll day through May and June. In general, once you hit the 2nd trimester (around 13-14 weeks) the morning sickness and exhaustion taper and you feel like yourself again. I am 16 weeks and I am starting to feel hard kicks from baby- it is the coolest most amazing part of pregnancy. I absolutely love it!
Labor and Delivery: I am in the all-natural, non-medicated camp.... so my views are very different on this than some. Labor and delivery is a natural process.... it hurts, but it is not harming you- that is what got me through labor and delivery with Carter- mind over matter!! Does it hurt, yes! Is it worth it? YES! I would take the pain times a million and still do it- with no drugs. People will tell you that once that baby is born and in your arms you forget about the pain- that is not a lie! When I held Carter for the first time, the whole world stopped- labor and delivery and the pain was a distant thought that was seriously totally out of my mind.
Recovery: In general, with a vaginal birth, the recovery time is 6 weeks. I would say that by about 2 weeks I was feeling really, really good. Your body goes through a lot during labor and delivery and it just takes time to go back to where it was pre-baby. But honestly, it wasnt that bad after a couple of days.
Caring for Baby: You wont just know what baby is crying for.. if someone tells you that, they are lying! When baby cries, you check their diaper and think about the last time he/she ate.. if its been an hour or more, then try feeding him/her... if baby is still crying after being fed and changed, then baby just needs to cry and that is totally normal. You will be imersed in it, you will get used to the crying, after a while you may be able to tell the difference in his/her cries and then you may just "know" but right away, its a guessing game no matter how many kids you have had experiences with!
I hope this helps..... let me know if you have more specific questions now
No problem! Happy to help!
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I would seriously LOVE to if I had more time!! Maybe once the house sells..... or for baby #3
I am here for any and all questions you have though Katelyn!
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Once you hit 20 weeks, no more stomach sleeping. For some reason, when I am pregnant, I become a stomach sleeper. What I did/will do is lay on my side on a pillow so that I can lay almost on my stomach. And believe me, once you get to 20 weeks, sleepign in your stomach would NOT be comfortable
I totally agree- it is a very personal decision. I had Carter in a hospital with a midwife and had a wonderful experience. I will do the same this time around, except I am planning a water birth. If H is on board, I hope to have a home birth for our next child/children.
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I didn't think so. Just a random question/thought, thanks for your help
Hey, no problem! I love talking about it (in case you couldnt tell! haha!!).
Lots of my friends have had kids so I've talked to them about a lot of stuff or they've just shared info but I'm also expecting something that many people don't share to happen for some weird reason.
The biggest suprise to me was the number of people who thinks its ok to tell pregnany women horror stories about child birth and when I explained to them that I was planning a non-medicated, all-natural child birth that they flat out told me I couldnt do it and its not worth it. I find it extremely rude and inconsiderate.
The other thing people told me that kind of thre me off "is you will know when the contractions are real and you are in labor"... BS!! SOOOO many first time moms go to the hospital thinking they are in active labor and get sent home because its not the real thing. I was determined to not do that. So until my water broke and my mom forced me out the door, I was did not think I was in labor. I got to the hospital when I was 8 cm dilated.... yeah I cut it close.