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Weird guy at work? What's his deal?

In the last week he told me he blew off his girlfriend to hang with me? I politely declined several times as I am engaged and also explained that too him. He said this is a "test"  and he's not looking to jump into anything but to explore. And asked me if he was worth the risk. So confused I asked him what this was all about. He said this was all my fault I drew him in and he is dying to get to know me.

 

He's also told the new girl at work he was sorta single. Then was rude and mean to her, and about 2 hours later she said offered to buy her lunch. She flat out thought he was rude. Now this last week, since it's only been him and I working together all he does is complain about his girlfriend not just to me but the other staff as well. So today he started again with a friend of mine in the room. At this point I just shrugged, because really what can you say? He started yelling " See your implying I should dump her! I knew it you want me to dump her!!" I looked at my friend and she looked as confused at I did. Because we're all so sick of hearing about how horrible the relationship is. It's just a huge hot mess and we all just kinda say "yup" or "ok" because he's the kind of guy that just keeps going on and on. 

So then he tells me I want to get to know you.  His girlfriend is not ok with this. And I'm quite sure my other half would not be ok with this. I keep telling him this, to which he says he doesn't care how anyone else feels he wants to be friends.  

 

I avoid his as much as possible at work. But really what's his deal? I'm so confused by this. Everyone that talks to him thinks he's a d* bag. And that was also coming from the 60yr old women who also works with us.  Do all guys act like this? I don't ever remember my  FI ever acting this way ever! And if he ever bad mouthed me to another girl, I'd be so gone! 

 

wth? advice please?  

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Re: Weird guy at work? What's his deal?

  • I would report him to his supervisor and if that does not work, then go to HR because he should not be acting like this towards you or any other coworkers in the office....obviously what you are saying to him is not working and getting him to back off, so time to report him.
  • I agree with R.Wilsonny. You told him no multiple times and he refuses to listen. Report him.

    I got uncomfortable putting my myself in your situation. Not all guys are like this creepy, rude one. That is why you like your Fi because he isn't anything like him.  

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    imageR.Wilsonny:
    I would report him to his supervisor and if that does not work, then go to HR because he should not be acting like this towards you or any other coworkers in the office....obviously what you are saying to him is not working and getting him to back off, so time to report him.

    This. 

  • If his behavior seems excessive or just plain makes you uncomfortable, tell him to cut it out or you will tell a supervisor.

    I don't know if he is harmful or not; he might just be excessively lonely and needs somebody to talk to.

    Let managment handle this. GL.
  • If this guy is repeatedly asking  you out when you have said you are not interested, then that is sexual harrassment.  Tell him one more time, very straightforward, that you are not interested.  If he keeps bothering you, tell your boss or HR.
  • imageKMR0609:
    If this guy is repeatedly asking  you out when you have said you are not interested, then that is sexual harrassment.  Tell him one more time, very straightforward, that you are not interested.  If he keeps bothering you, tell your boss or HR.

    Yep

  • I would report him to HR. He is stepping the boundaries by trying to make moves on you when you clearly said NO. I think the best idea is to let your fiance be aware of this and sit down with your manager and that guy. You want to have things straightened out on your part before he tries to blow it out of proportion.

     

    Obviously this guy is having relationship issues but is not man enough to get rid of his girlfriend (if he claims it's so bad). But I wonder if this is more for a cry for attention and sympathy? Does he really have a gf?

  • What are you confused about? The guy's an idiot, report him and move on with you life.  There's nothing for you to wonder about, unless you're digging him or the attention. In which case you'd have some evaluating to do, but it sounds like you know what to do.  Talk to your supervisor. 
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