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Potty problems (long, but pls help!)
Any of you Momma's that have trained a little one, I could use your advice. LB is 23 months old. At 16 months old, she would point to the potty and tell me she wanted to go. I bought her the seat that sits on top of the potty and on multiple occasions, she would go. I started by just bringing her down after meals and she would wear a diaper at all other times. After a few weeks, when I would say we were going to the potty, she would say no. Not wanting to force the issue (and with a new baby on the way and a move in our near future, I figured there would be regression anyways) I gave in and we went back to diapers.
Now that we are settled in our new home and she has some really good cues, I figured we would try again. She tells me that she is pooping while she is going and then she tells me to change her~I figured that meant she was ready. So.. I bought her a potty that her friend has and before I could throw the box in the garage, she had used it already. We danced and sang and I gave her some reeces pieces (she rarely gets candy). I asked her to sit on the potty in 20 minute intervals for the rest of the day to no avail. She would always go in her pull up. The following day I figured maybe we would lose the pull up and just go nakey. Then she was having accidents on my brand new carpet. She went on the potty 3 times on the second day which made me SO happy! However, at one point in the afternoon, she was sitting on the potty while watching little mermaid. She sat there for over an hour and as soon as she got off, she went in her pull up. It was like she was holding it until I put her pull up back on. So day three, I tried big girl unders and same thing. She would use the potty once or twice during the day but for the most part, it seemed like she was holding it until she got off of the potty. When I ask her where pee pee goes, she says "on my potty". Same with poops. She seems to know. Now I just feel like I am being inconsistent with diapers at night, sometimes nakey, sometimes pull up, sometimes big girl unders. Not sure what to do anymore and just wondering if I am headed down the right path.
At this point, she will ask to sit on the potty, I will help her pull down her pull up and then she will get mad at me, like I made her sit there. So frustrating! What do you ladies recommend, what worked for you. thanks for reading and all advice is appreciated!
Re: Potty problems (long, but pls help!)
I haven't been down this road yet, so I don't have much advice, except maybe she's just not ready. She's still young. A is almost 28 months and isn't ready yet.
I don't have personal experience with this yet, but just from what you've said I think i'd stick to diapers or pull ups all the time. Still have her sit on the potty Ike usual, but if she goes in the diaper I wouldn't make a big deal. She is probably just in the early stages of understanding so I'd focus more on positive reinforcement when it does happen on the potty.
Also, I'd set a time limit on how long she sits...like 10 mins? (don't know what's an appropriate amount of time for a toddler). I feel like if it's gonna happen, it would by then and if she's sitting there for long time periods it may be more confusing. One of my friends swears by the book Three day training method (or something like that). That might be helpful for info but I think it's geared more towards kids around 3.
Thanks ladies!
I'll start off by saying girls seem to PT at a different rate than boys so my experience may not exactly happen the same for you. I'm also not a PT expert but here's my opinion:
Consistency is very important IMO. If you are switching off between pull ups, diapers and undies it may be getting confusing to her. 20 minutes sitting on the potty is a LONG time for a toddler. I used to use a timer when potty training A and set it for 10 minute intervals and bring him to the potty every time it rang. I'd have him sit for 2 minutes. If he didn't go off he got and we set the timer for another 10 minutes. Also if she's sitting on the potty while watching TV she's most likely not concentrating on doing what she needs to do and just thinking she's sitting on a chair - hence when she got off and stopped watching TV she went in her diaper. If she is getting mad I would back off a bit and try again a few days later. Pushing her too hard will only derail you and push you back in the training process.
Definitely continue to celebrate her victories on the potty and keep consistent with having her sit on the potty. I used to have A sit the same time every day - when he woke up, before bath and before bed. I also used a sticker & rewards system which worked wonders with him. I never did the 3 day PT but I've know others that have done it and it's worked for them.
3 seems to be the magic number, at least for boys it is. I don't know what it is about that age but as soon as they turn 3 it's like a magic switch goes off in their head. 2 days after his 3rd birthday my son was PT both day and night. He did it in 2 days and never looked back. I've had a few friends where this has happened also so 3 seems to be the age. Not to say that she won't PT earlier than that (see the first sentence of my post).
Good luck!! It's not an easy process but keep at it and stay consistent with her. She'll get it eventually.
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We have just ventured into potty training in the last 2 weeks. I started with a sticker chart. A is obsessed with stickers so I thought it would do the trick. He was only getting one for sitting at first. One day he peed so he'd get one for that along with flushing and washing his hands. We had been doing that before we left for vacation and he was peeing more and more.
Today he's at daycare in underwear! I still put him in pull ups at night, but he's staying dry. Up until we started he didn't care if he was in a dirty diaper. GL
I have to agree that she is still kinda young. Sue was a little over 2 1/2 when she fjnallly did it. Like your LO she did it early on (18mo) then went back. We did stickers aNd prizes and used pull ups, and didn't leave the house for 3 days. I learned quickly NOT to keep the potty out in the living room in front of the tv. First she was more interested in tv and with it being in the living room she treated it like a toy/ took it less serious. The first day was the worst for us and then it seemed to click. We did stickers and prizes and even sometimes would call Daddy at work or Grandma. The motivation helped but mostly she was proud of herself and motivated to wear "big girl underwear." the one or two times she had an accident she was so upset. Does it seem to bother Lb when she has an accident?