January 2012 Weddings
Jean9ds
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I'm so mad I'm shaking (sorry, long)
First a little back story. I graduated with my Bachelors in Psychology and minor in Family Relations back in December 2011. I then applied for grad school to get my Masters in Social Work, which wouldn't start until Fall 2012 so I had a semester in which I had no classes. I have a small loan that I didn't want to start paying interest on yet as well as only two classes left to finish up my certificate in Early Childhood Education so I figured I would hit two birds with one stone and take two classes at the community college in my town.
(Keep in mind that I work very hard for my grades. My GPA when I graduated was 3.94 so hopefully that shows what kind of student I am).
Fast forward to the end of the semester, May 2012. One class, I get an 'A' in. Great. The other class gets posted. C!!! I immediately email the teacher. No response. I send a copy of the same email 2 weeks later. No response. After 3 weeks, I call on a Monday and leave a message. No response. I call again that Friday, she picks up! All she says over and over again is that she has "up to a year to change my grade". Frustrating! This was 1 week before I leave for a month long trip to visit DH in another state, so I wanted to get this taken care of (if we had to meet to look over my papers) before I left. No such luck. Later that day, she sends me an email back stating that I deserved a C because of: "2 absences, 3 tardies, and a paper that she gave me 10/20 on, which should have been 0/20 since it was late". For one thing, I was NEVER late to class, turned in EVERYTHING on time, and have only one absence in the 18 week school semester (I talked to her in class about it 3 weeks ahead of time and emailed her day of to remind her).
I email back nicely to explain this. No response. I send a copy of the same email 3 weeks later. FINALLY got a response today:
Teacher: "Jeannine~I will give you a "B" in the class, but I do not feel like you did do "A" work by not being on time, having absences, and turning in your work late and by not following directions for the assignments given on the syllabus."
My response: "As stated in my last email, I had only one absence, made a point to be on time to every single class, and did not turn in a single item late. Every single item was turned in on time, in class, directly to you."
Teacher: "I do not agree with all that you have stated and I will stand on giving you a higher grade of a "B", again, I could have given you no points for a paper that had nothing to do with the assignment.
I am sorry that you do not appreciate this grade change, as it was submitted to the college this afternoon."
Part of me just wants to give up. Yes, she raised it to a "B" but isn't it the principle of the matter. I tried so hard in the community college class that I didn't even need, just to have to fight for the grade that I KNOW I deserve. And now it feels like she's giving me a guilt trip for already changing it, like she's doing me favors and I am a spoiled, unappreciative brat.
Luckily a B is better. But I'm still mad that I have to send this grade ahead to my graduate studies office to be added with my other classes. Luckily it's not a C, but still.
I just wish others would try as hard as I do sometimes...
Sorry about all that. I just had to get it all out....
Re: I'm so mad I'm shaking (sorry, long)
WOW! Although I feel your pain, my M.S. professors were similar. Ask the ladies here how many times I had to complain about them. I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do!
P.S. I have a B.A in Psy too! And 2 M.S. degrees in School Counseling and Community Therapy. I am an LPC.
You def, choose the right degree for Social Work. I have found so many more jobs that want that degree than mine! Great choice!
The main part that bothers me is that in the last email she called me unappreciative, like she did me a favor by giving me a grade closer to the one I deserve.
P.S. Great choice! I love my degree choice. I tease people saying I got my degree in manipulation and family. Which is somewhat true. But I love relationships, behavior, etc. I almost did Marriage and Family Therapy, but Social Work is so much more widely accepted! I love all the opportunities (and choices) I've already had! This next year, my field placement internship is at Head Start program, an early intervention program for children and families. I'm so excited to start. I definitely went "professional" business clothes shopping. Good excuse, right? haha
We signed a paper for attendance, which I signed each time (except the one day I was actually absent). Actually about 3 weeks from the end of class, she came up to me before class started and said "Now, I know you're always here, but I have 7 absences for you" and then proceeded to pull out the papers. I had to sit there and point out where my name is on all the attendance sheets to prove I was there until there was only one absence. And on the last day, I even asked her if we were all cleared away with only one absence, and she said yes.
So she has the proof of me signing in, each and every time. Part of me is worried that maybe I missed one, but that's just the paranoid me. I'm actually the one who started the roll call sheet each class anyway (it was just a binder sheet of paper). I called the chair of the department yesterday. I am happy it was a B, so if anything, could be worse. But the fact that she's guilt tripping me into not pursuing this by saying I don't appreciate her generous gift, bleh. Just rude.
I had a professor that did a similar thing. I would go higher in the college and see if they have a grade dispute policy. My school did, and a friend and I started the process. I didn't get very far, because for the same reason, it was only a B+ instead of the A- I should have gotten, but still. It is the principle of the matter. Don't listen to her. I would dispute the grade. She is just trying to get you not too. I would also look into changing the grade to a pass/fail class if you can. At least that way, it wouldn't show on your gpa