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Am I overreacting?
My husband of 3 months has crazy ex's, one in particular who is relentless that still facebook him and text him wanting him to cheat on me with them. he turns them down and tells me everytime it happens but he continues to talk to them. Why would you want to talk to someone who plainly direspects your marriage? of course i'm frustrated with them and him for still being friends with them. after a huge fight ,he tells me he'll never speak with them again, but then i find out they're catching up like old buddies on facebook and he's keeping it from me because he "still values that friendship". The relentless ex was his "fantasy woman" (cougar milf when he was 21) lives 30 minutes from us and is constantly begging him to visit and continue their "friendship". i don't know what to do and have just about hit the end of my rope. I do trust him but when he acts like this it makes it so hard. he says im overreacting and that i don't trust him and i shouldn't be upset because im the one he married, not them. am i really overreacting or is he the one in the wrong?
Re: Am I overreacting?
You are simply REacting. Try starting the conversation with him..."Honey I just have to share something with you...I don't need you to do anything I just need you to listen. I feel _______ when your ex contacts you. I trust our relationship and also wanted to let you know how this makes me feel. I just had to let you know." This takes away the ability for him to get defensive and to help him better understand your feelings on this issue.
(And so does the use of the made up word "disrespect." IT IS NOT A WORD, it's a white trash creation)
That he is keeping it from you is the problem....so therefore you have an H problem, not a former gf problem.
Your vast area of contention should be with your H and his actions. Not with anybody he used to date.
You have an H problem. That he doesn't see that him being in contact with an ex who actively wants him to cheat on you with her is disrespectful to you speak volumes about how he views your marriage.
He should change his phone number, unfriend her on FB etc etc. Why isn't he doing whatever it takes to make you happy? Aren't you #1 in his life?
Yep this. He obviously keeps these women around for SOME reason. Turning a blind eye isn't helping you.