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My fiance and I just had another argument about the amount of people at the wedding we are inviting. We just got engaged on July 4th... We have been arguing about everything! The venue, the wedding list, where we want to live... I feel like we never argued before and now we argue... help!
Re: Stressed
It seems you argue because neither of you will compromise. At least that is what impression I get. Generally if people try to compromise they won't argue in the first place.
Honestly the amount of info you gave really isn't helpful. I would rather give advice based on actual situations rather then guessing.
As you can see, it's essential that you and he be in agreement on issues that will affect you both.
Do not go ahead and plan the wedding until you 2 are communicating effectively, in agreement on very major issues and that the issues are solved to your satisfaction and his.
My husband and I were the same way when we were wedding planning. We had arguments while we were dating and engaged, but nothing too big. When we started planning the big day, we ended up fighting a lot with some yelling, etc. I think a lot of it had to do with the stress of setting something big up all by ourselves. After the wedding we were fine and we went back to how we usually are, with our laid back discussions and debates..wouldnt really call it fighting per say. Although we have only been married a little less than 2 years.
If it is mostly about wedding issues, I wouldnt worry too much. If it has to do with other aspects of your life, I would be a little bit worried. Didn't you have discussions about the future before you got engaged? Like where you were going to live, etc?