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What should we do?
My husbands first cousin is knocked up and planned a wedding in two months. Her father (husband uncle) has been a huge father figure to my hubby most of his life father spent a lot of time in jail. Hubby also works for the uncle for alittle over a year now. When we received the invite for e wedding we found out the date is durning our already family vacation. (wedding is August 24 and are away from August 20- 27). We send the response in saying we couldn't go and he had told his uncle in February thAt we booked vaca and when it was so he would get time off from job. This past Sunday uncle called hubby and yelled at him about finding out we were not going and that we should go. Even though it would mean changing our plans. So things were fine with us we still agreed we are not going. This is something u deal with when u plan a wedding in a short time. Not all the family will be able to go. Yesterday he tells me he is feeling bad and thinks we should go and it would be possible to drive back that day and return late that night. We r going to new hamisphere. I don't think we should go, the long driving with the little kids again and the gas price for this. Plus losing time away from our planned vacation. We want some of ur ideas on this. She is a cousin that we don't talk to much at all, she is a lot younger than us, and she had cheated on this guy last Sumer and we thought she was done with him, and every time we saw her since last summer he was there but no ring ( oh yeah last feb he proposed then she cheated and the ring was off) now this Sunday I was at the shower and he gives her the ring with a new and improved setting.
What should we do?
Re: What should we do?
His uncle has no right to get mad at you guys for declining. That is ridiculous to expect people to drop everything and their already made plans for a wedding that was planned in a few months. I'm sorry your hubby feels bad, he really shouldnt! I would understand if it was someone you were closer to, but a person you barely know(even if its a cousin) and a person who you dont approve of their values? Skip that, his uncle will get over it! Is his uncle the kind of person who will make a big deal about it at work with your hubby?
Also I bet your husband's cousin wont mind that much, or she wouldnt have planned the wedding that fast (even if she is preggers). I'd suggest just sending her a present and I'm sure she'll be happy.