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Rebound
Hi ladies and gents!
I'm seeking advice not only on how to avoid being a rebound but also how to get out of being in a rebound relationship. I've recently started dating a guy who lives an hour or two from me. We get along great and sparks flew immediately... however. He has some baggage. He has mentioned another woman in his life whom he casually dated for about a year and a half but apparently she wasn't sure she was ready to commit to him so they've been on and off. Recently, she's started sleeping with other people but keeping my guy close. He's been very friendly and flirty towards me but I know that they communicate everyday and that bothers me. Just a few days ago, I asked about his feelings for her and he told me that there are some feelings there but they seem to be subsiding. This made me extremely angry... I'm confused as to why he thinks it's ok to talk to her while pursuing me as well. I expressed my feelings to him and he just apologized and told me he just wanted to be honest... which I can forgive. He's been talking to me less and less and there's a gut feeling that things with her are looking up. I have this issue of casually dating someone and then blowing our relationship into more than it is. Basically, I get attached easily and he has me. How do I get out of this?!?!! I've thought of telling him to F off but I don't want to come off as too needy/uptight. But at the same time, I'm not willing to be third wheel. Do I cut off all communication? Do I wait it out? And if I do need to get away... how do I get rid of this crappy feeling that I'm always second best? We are perfect for each other and she treats him like crap yet he doesn't care!!!! Any help is greatly appreciated!
xoxo
Re: Rebound
Find yourself another guy who hasn't got any baggage at all -- somebody who is more or less free and clear to date somebody, with a committment with you in the future.:)
He's not over this other lady -- what he needed to do was make a clean break of it and discontinue all contact with her, but that's not the way it happened.
Maybe it would be a good idea to stop in and see a counselor on your own so that you can figure out how to stop falling for a guy so easily.
You deserve better.
Now start demanding it.