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JenD1018
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#1 12.11.11
#2 10.23.13 EDD
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Am I being fair or stingy?
I know things are always more complicated when you bring money and family into the fold.
SIL watches Jack three times a week from 7-5. We both agreed on a monthly price of $550.
Last month, they went away for a week of vacation (actually, they left on a Friday so she didn't watch him for 4 days).
I divided the $550 over the 12 days she would have watched him this month to get $46/day. I then deducted the 4 days ($184) from the monthly fee so she was paid a reduced fee for July.
Mr.D thinks its wrong but I don't think it's right that she be paid if she's not watching him. I know if I were watching someone's kids, I wouldn't expect to be paid if I went away on vacation.
So, am I being fair or stingy?
#1 12.11.11
#2 10.23.13 EDD
Re: Am I being fair or stingy?
I think you are right that is gets complicated if it involves family and money.
If it is any help, if he was in daycare, you would probably get a week or so "vacation" where you would not have to pay. But you would still pay for anything over that, sick days, etc. Plus, you would pay when they are closed -- holidays, in service, etc.
So I don't necessarily think it is stingy, but in more formal childcare arrangements, I do think there is probably a limit of times you can do that, and it is spelled out in the beginning.
Hmm, I would give the regular amount and cover the vacation days, especially since it is family.
$46 a day, for a 10 hr day no less, is really, really good deal. I know this may be comparable to some in-home day care prices, but I'm guessing this is one-on-one? The going rate for daytime nanny/babysitting is $15-20 an hour.
I feel like if it's prearranged (vacation), I shouldn't have to pay.
But I'm not going to be counting sick days. My mom had to watch Jack two extra days when her kids had pink eye but I didn't deduct then, nor do I plan to in the future.
#1 12.11.11
#2 10.23.13 EDD
Says the girl without kids....
I think I'd be on your husbands side and my husband would be on your side. The way I would look at it is that we were saving money by not having an expensive daycare were they would still charge us for missed days. Also, I would really value being able to have a family member help with childcare over a business. I'd see it as our family member helping us out and us returning the favor as a 'thank you'.
I'm with NQ.
If it were us, I know MrJRM would be thinking like MrD.
FWIW, we have a (non-family) babysitter at home now. Our arrangement does not include paid vacation. However, some nannies do get paid vacation.
This is tough since it's family.
Did she mention anything about payment arrangements when she told you about going away? I'm assuming she didn't.
Also, they were the ones that took the vacation, not you. If you were in formal daycare you'd likely get 1 or 2 weeks of vacation per year where you don't have to pay while taking off. In a day care center, the staff likely won't take off a week and expect to be paid (they will take a paid day on holidays, though.)
Can you guys just flat out ask her what her expectations are? Is she expecting to be paid?
She didn't mention anything about payment prior but when I explained to her what I was going to do, she said ok.
I just feel like vacations, definitely not, but I'm not going to nitpick about sick days.
#1 12.11.11
#2 10.23.13 EDD
Agreed. Even though you don't "have" to pay, I think it's a nice way of saying thanks for a very discounted rate.
Our daycare has no "freebies" we pay all the time, every freaking week. So when we take a week vacation, we pay. It sucks.
Also, you're really getting a deal on childcare, so I would probably say to just pay her for it all.