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Shower gift
My friend is getting married next month and we are throwing her shower this weekend. We (the other bridesmaid and her sister who is her MOH) agreed to all go grocery shopping and bring all of the food for the shower over to her sisters house where the shower is being hosted and cook it all together. We would add up all of the grocery receipts and divide it up amongst us and split the cost of everything. That being said, the other bridesmaid messaged me and asked if I thought she should get a shower gift. I had already bought 2 things off of my friends registry because I feel that we are all splitting the cost of the food so it's not like anyone is paying more than the other, so it's on our own personal end to buy a gift. Also, as it is for our good friend, wouldn't you want to get them a nice gift even if it's just something small or even a gift card? The gifts that I got was a small candle that was maybe $10 and a nice picture frame from her registry. I didn't feel the need to do anything big since we were throwing the shower for her. The other bridesmaid has been a thorn in our side since the beginning...she didn't order her shoes in time and now they're back ordered so we're praying they come within the next few weeks, she ordered her dress online when we live 10 minutes from the store because she has 2 young kids and couldn't get out to go buy it in person...She's married...and is a stay at home mom..you mean to tell me you don't have an hour or so to go to the store and buy the dress. She used the same excuse for not going out to buy a gift...she didn't have time to go to the store. No offense but we've known the date and time of the shower for several months now. I just get so upset because everyone should just suck it up and do their share...if they didn't want to get involved or didn't have time, then they shouldn't be in it. I told her that it was up to her if she got a gift or not but I did because the bride is my good friend and I wanted to give her a gift. She said if she got a shower gift she wouldn't do anything for the wedding...she asked me for advise and I tried to answer as politely as possible but do you guys think it's rude to not get your friend a shower gift? I know that weddings are expensive...this is my 4th wedding including my own in a year and half and I certainly don't feel like spending more money on weddings when I'm saving for a house and have huge school loans, but I don't think it's fair to not give a nice gift for your friends wedding.
Re: Shower gift
Sounds to me like they're broke or barely getting by. Since the one is asking for your perspective (not to be confused with "advice" since she's not telling you the whole story), give it to her. But try not to judge, b/c the bottomline is that a gift is a gift - not the cost of cover.
Also, if you're having a hard time letting go - remember that this is your friend's wedding, not yours. It's generous of you to be concerned (goes with your generous gift-giving nature), but your friend might not have any issue at all with an absent gift or she might have insight into her co-maid's situations that you don't. I'd be cautious about making potentially unwelcome waves by bringing this stuff up to the bride or ruffling feathers by alienating your co-maids.