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Confessions of a Housewife
Hi all,
So as you know I was laid off from my job 1 month ago. During this time, I have been actively applying to jobs everyday as well as getting together with old contacts and friends. I have also been much more active with the cleaning and cooking than before. Certain days I am really excited about having everything organized and other times it seems like a chore. DH of course really enjoys having everything clean since before I was working till 6pm or so and really wanted to no part of it. I am also feeling guilty about just going out and doing fun things during the week so I just stay home all day looking for jobs.
Well now that it has been a month, yesterday it really hit me that I am unemployed and what if I don't find a job for a long time and it made me depressed. This is the first time I have not been working since age 16. It's amazing how I now have all this time to contemplate about finances and what ifs. While we have money saved and I just started receiving unemployment, it still makes me uneasy. On top of this, I am super excited to start TTC next month, however I'm thinking maybe its not a good idea right now, but then again I am 31 and damnit I want to have a baby next year (hopefully).
This is such a wierd phase to be in and I'm not quite sure how to deal with it.
Thanks all!
Re: Confessions of a Housewife
Hey CC. I totally hear you. It is a shock to the system to go from the routine and safety net of a job to actively looking for one. The good news is that your H is secure, and you guys are a team. It took me a long time to convince my H (then FI) that it was ok for me to be paying our bills while he focused on getting himself out there on the NYC jazz scene and preparing for the time when the right college teaching job opens (there's no rhyme or reason to that).
On the TTC front - I know it's hard when you feel ready in every other way, but time is still on your side. Heck, I'll be 36 in October and we're not ready yet, mostly because we are both freelancing at the moment and I absolutely will not do pregnancy without health insurance. When one of us gets something steady with benefits, then we'll think about it. In the meantime I've been trying to get my body into better shape in order to better handle pregnancy at an "advanced" age.
Sending you lots of good vibes! Hang in there, something will break for you. Give yourself a break and don't be afraid to do something fun for you every once in a while!
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No matter what, there's always a "better" time for everything, especially having a baby. Do what feels right for you guys, even if you don't have a job just yet. It could take awhile to get pregnant, or you could get lucky right away, who knows.
Joanna I don't blame you about the insurance and waiting to TTC! That is a big factor in our situation too, DH's job doesn't provide insurance benefits, or they have a plan but don't pay any part of it, it's 100% on the employee. I've been freelancing for a few years and haven't had it, and now everything I have looked at on the individual side is depressing because either they don't offer maternity at all (only for group plans), or they charge $600+ per month, which is crazy!, and on top of that don't cover you until you've been on the plan for a year. It's soooo frustrating!
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I just wrote a really long post about how it's never the perfect time to TTC and that even if you think it is you never know what will happen but I deleted it because I realized I was venting a little too hard. lol
Anyway! I know you're stressing and things aren't perfect but I'm sending thoughts and prayers your way and I know it'll be okay. Go with your heart on what you want to do and it will work out.