Post Wedding Blues

Zimsgirl · August 2012

Is it hitting anyone? It's been hitting me hard lately

I guess it's because I spent 2 years planning and now have no new project: no house, no baby, etc. It really hit me last night when I got my dress out of my closet when I was cleaning and I started crying

mrsodonnell12 · August 2012

I'm sorry you are feeling so down Katelyn

That stinks!

Zimsgirl · August 2012

mrsodonnell12:
I'm sorry you are feeling so down Katelyn That stinks!

Thanks It just sucks not having that to look forward to. I love being married but it doesn't feel any different. We have 2 more years of school so no house or baby obviously. I'm also not liking my job right now and can't really quit so that's not helping. Also living in an apartment doesn't give me much freedom with decorating. I don't know it's been a rough couple of weeks

teachermomtobe · August 2012

I'm sorry you feel that way Katelyn. I hear you on the apartment decorating thing. That's one reason I'm dying for a house. I've lived at college/apartments for 9 years.

I'm not sad it's over. I loved planning it but it's nice to have some free time again. I've been scrapbooking our wedding which is nice. You scrapbook too, right? Could that be your next project?

mrsodonnell12 · August 2012

Zimsgirl:

mrsodonnell12:
I'm sorry you are feeling so down Katelyn That stinks!

Thanks It just sucks not having that to look forward to. I love being married but it doesn't feel any different. We have 2 more years of school so no house or baby obviously. I'm also not liking my job right now and can't really quit so that's not helping. Also living in an apartment doesn't give me much freedom with decorating. I don't know it's been a rough couple of weeks

Maybe you should plan a trip up here and help me with the baby room

Zimsgirl · August 2012

jkmartin2012:
I'm sorry you feel that way Katelyn. I hear you on the apartment decorating thing. That's one reason I'm dying for a house. I've lived at college/apartments for 9 years.

I'm not sad it's over. I loved planning it but it's nice to have some free time again. I've been scrapbooking our wedding which is nice. You scrapbook too, right? Could that be your next project?

Yeah I'm waiting on photos to get here. I ordered some from Shutterfly

Zimsgirl · August 2012

mrsodonnell12:
Zimsgirl:

mrsodonnell12:
I'm sorry you are feeling so down Katelyn That stinks!

Thanks It just sucks not having that to look forward to. I love being married but it doesn't feel any different. We have 2 more years of school so no house or baby obviously. I'm also not liking my job right now and can't really quit so that's not helping. Also living in an apartment doesn't give me much freedom with decorating. I don't know it's been a rough couple of weeks

Maybe you should plan a trip up here and help me with the baby room

That would be so fun!!

Since the depression has kind of been hitting me, baby fever has disappeared which is good because we are definitely not ready lol. It's still fun to look for ideas though lol

MrsD6812 · August 2012

I feel the same way Katelyn. We have an apartment and hardly any freedom for decorating. It's depressing lol. I want a house to paint and decorate however I want. I have major baby fever, because a lot of my friends have had babies recently. H is not ready though and has made that clear, so we will wait. I would like to get pregnant in 2 years, but who knows. He will probably still want to wait longer haha. He's more worried about the financial part of it than anything.

MoonlightSilver · August 2012

It hit me really bad Saturday at my SIL's wedding. It felt very strange and sad. But I'm happy to be married, so I focus on that (and watch our wedding video a lot).

daria24 · August 2012

SYTTD makes me sad, because I won't get to try on wedding dresses any more! But other than that, still completely happy it's all over.

I think having a goal or something to look forward to is the key-a trip to plan, a new hobby to explore, exercise goals, etc.

franklissa · August 2012

I'm sorry that it's been rough for you. Hopefully once classes start back up it will get easier. We live on campus and although it is a house it's not our house. I'm looking forward now to graduation and when we can buy our own home.

ash273uk · August 2012

I have experienced the post wedding blues too. I miss wedding planning!

We have done a lot in our house, but money is getting tight so we had to stop for now.

MMRoberts11 · August 2012

daria24:

I think having a goal or something to look forward to is the key-a trip to plan, a new hobby to explore, exercise goals, etc.

I agree. Definitely find something new to occupy your time.

Zimsgirl · August 2012

It's just hard to find something new because of my work schedule and school eventually. We're also trying to save so I feel bad with some of my crafting so I took a break

MrsJWoodJr · August 2012

I'm so sorry to hear this. I agree with trying something new. I know before you said you wanted to do more crafty things. What about that?

doeie04 · August 2012

Sorry to hear that, Zims! Since you said you were taking a break from your crafting due to budget, maybe you could focus on trying new things in the kitchen? I don't know if you like cooking and baking, but maybe it could be fun?

I don't miss wedding planning at all. I haven't even gone through the wedding stuff. It is still piled in our dining room. I really don't even want to go through it any time soon. I am trying to get our house back in order, which seems to be taking me forever! I feel like we aren't back in our pre-wedding routine yet. It is kinda odd.

peachykeen26 · August 2012

I don't miss wedding planning at all. I just want it all out of our house! I am so tired of running into it and tripping over things.

Thankfully it's mostly all gone.

KBabe076 · August 2012

I know exactly what you're talking about, Zims! I went through the same thing during 2 weeks or so after my wedding. I have been feeling better by just focusing on what's going on now. We are house hunting so that's been helping a lot. I do notice now that I'm more critical of other people's weddings because my H and I feel like ours was so perfect. I was the MOH in my friend's wedding this weekend and my H and I judged everything! We obviously didn't say anything to her but it's weird to go to others now.

Is there something else you can put together to look forward to? A vacation or event? The distraction helps!

janeash · August 2012

I am in the same boat. I find having a goal or trip or something to work towards helps a lot (but at the moment, I have nothing in the foreseeable future and I am going crazy!!)

Zimsgirl · August 2012

peachykeen26:
I don't miss wedding planning at all. I just want it all out of our house! I am so tired of running into it and tripping over things.
Thankfully it's mostly all gone.

Well that was less than helpful.

MiksChick23 · August 2012

LOL

I went through a little bout of the blues when it was all over and H and I went back to work. I got over it by trying to be involved in other things. Are there any organization projects you could try? Revamping your budget to save for something special? I've been slowly re-organizing the house with our wedding gifts. Spreading out out has helped. I'm sure once school starts, your mind will be busy focusing on grades. Hope you get past it soon!

Zimsgirl · August 2012

MiksChick23:
LOL
I went through a little bout of the blues when it was all over and H and I went back to work. I got over it by trying to be involved in other things. Are there any organization projects you could try? Revamping your budget to save for something special? I've been slowly re-organizing the house with our wedding gifts. Spreading out out has helped. I'm sure once school starts, your mind will be busy focusing on grades. Hope you get past it soon!

I just finished a bunch of organizing which was much needed!

tyleet87 · August 2012

I miss it too at times. But I actually still have wedding tasks that need to be done. I haven't preserved my dress yet and I need to put my bouquet in a shadowbox.

Right now I'm planning my trips to go see DH and then trying to save for house.

Also, Pinterest and wine help.

Zimsgirl · August 2012

tyleet87:
I miss it too at times. But I actually still have wedding tasks that need to be done. I haven't preserved my dress yet and I need to put my bouquet in a shadowbox.
Right now I'm planning my trips to go see DH and then trying to save for house.
Also, Pinterest and wine help.

I started bawling packing up my dress. I think it hit me so hard because that was the last thing I needed to do. It's really all over

Megbo2012 · August 2012

peachykeen26:
I don't miss wedding planning at all. I just want it all out of our house! I am so tired of running into it and tripping over things.
Thankfully it's mostly all gone.

You give great advice. You should really look into starting an advice column or something.

mrsodonnell12 · August 2012

jaschelle:

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way I have felt similarly from time to time. I have found that when I'm feeling that way, if I redirect my focus, it helps greatly. I will watch our video highlight, and if hubby is around, I'll ask him to snuggle for a few minutes. I also understand the financial situation at the moment. Though we do have a home, we can not decorate it or make the improvements just yet.

My advice: Maybe talk with your Husband and ask him if the two of you can set a goal for an evening stroll every night. (My H and I just started this and we Love it!). You have the entire day to think about what you will talk about- even if it's just making up silly jokes. Maybe chat during that time about future plans- baby names, pets, vacations, what you want in a home and so on. Count the stars, kiss at the stop sign.

You were a beautiful bride. Now you have an entire marriage to plan- one moment at a time, for many many decades! Girl, you've got lots of planning to do! Chin up buttercup!

Another idea I just started to do. Every time you're feeling blue, think about how much you love your hubby (or whenever you think of him and smile). Then write a little note on scrap paper to him. It could be just a couple words or more. I suggest putting the date on it. Fold it up and put it into a jar or box. You can give this to your husband when ever you want. My plan is to give mine to my hubby on our anniversary. I figure by then it should be pretty full.

This whole post makes me want to vomit.

Megbo2012 · August 2012

mrsodonnell12:
jaschelle:

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way I have felt similarly from time to time. I have found that when I'm feeling that way, if I redirect my focus, it helps greatly. I will watch our video highlight, and if hubby is around, I'll ask him to snuggle for a few minutes. I also understand the financial situation at the moment. Though we do have a home, we can not decorate it or make the improvements just yet.

My advice: Maybe talk with your Husband and ask him if the two of you can set a goal for an evening stroll every night. (My H and I just started this and we Love it!). You have the entire day to think about what you will talk about- even if it's just making up silly jokes. Maybe chat during that time about future plans- baby names, pets, vacations, what you want in a home and so on. Count the stars, kiss at the stop sign.

You were a beautiful bride. Now you have an entire marriage to plan- one moment at a time, for many many decades! Girl, you've got lots of planning to do! Chin up buttercup!

Another idea I just started to do. Every time you're feeling blue, think about how much you love your hubby (or whenever you think of him and smile). Then write a little note on scrap paper to him. It could be just a couple words or more. I suggest putting the date on it. Fold it up and put it into a jar or box. You can give this to your husband when ever you want. My plan is to give mine to my hubby on our anniversary. I figure by then it should be pretty full.

This whole post makes me want to vomit.

Is it the morning sickness?

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