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Vent!!!
Let it out, ladies!
So I got a message from my cousin yesterday and her and her husband never got us a shower or wedding gift. So she was like "sorry we haven't gotten you anything but we're just getting around to it. I noticed that your registry is pretty bought up so is there anything you need or do you want a gift card from somewhere?" - umm yea it's bought up, we got married 2 1/2 months ago and its been even longer since the shower! so I don't want to sound spoiled bc it is very nice of her to get us a gift and I know its normal to give a wedding gift up to a year later but really? ur just getting to it? your a stay at home mom of one child and you couldn't find time to put money in a card?! She didn't even give us a card for the shower or wedding! I just thought it seemed rude that she was like I'm just getting to it, no biggie, ur just married! She annoys me for other reasons too so I think this just bugged me more.
Oh and I didn't get the job from the interview I had last week! :-( I was so disappointed yesterday when I found out because it went so well and I really liked the position plus I hate my current job. Again I know it could be worse and I could be unemployed but I was sad.
Thanks for listening!! I feel better haha what do you guys need to vent about?!
Re: Vent!!!
Trying not to sound mean or rude here, so please don't take it that way. Im just trying to see this from their point of view. I'm not entirely sure why you're up in arms about this. Maybe they've been struggling with money lately and haven't been able to afford to give you a gift yet. Not sure how being a stay at home mom means they can afford a gift, that's one less income they have to live on. Maybe they had an unexpected expense that left them tight on money. Sure, it'd have been nice for them to give you a card at your shower and wedding, but maybe they wanted to send one with a gift. I'd just graciously give her the name of a store that you had a registry at or would like to buy home stuff from and leave it at that. They were at your wedding and bridal shower, which is a gift enough. We didn't receive a gift from one couple, but if they were to mention that they were just getting around to it I wouldn't be annoyed at them, I'd be grateful that they're even getting us something.
That sucks about the job, though. Keep your head up, something will come along!!
It's all about perspective. Sure you can be annoyed and think about how she procrastinated getting you a gift. Or you can think "Sweet! I thought we were all done getting wedding gifts but now we get another one!"
It's a blessing not a curse.
Sorry about the job.
If she is a stay-at-home mom, maybe money has been tight. At least she thought enough of you to send a gift now instead of not at all. My husband and I got married on 6/2 and we just got a gift last week from our friends in FL. They didn't make it to the wedding and had mentioned sending us a gift. But we just got it. I wasn't all up in arms about it like you... I was appreciative. Things come up, life happens... sometimes there aren't enough hours in the day or sometimes unexpected costs arise. You've totally got the wrong attitude on this one.
I agree with this.
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Wow. This is one of the brattiest posts I've seen yet--which is saying something. She may have used not having time as an excuse but ever thought maybe they didn't have the money then? FFS I hope they give you a pile of poo.
Wow! You guys are harsh! Money def isnt tight with them, my cousin's husband is super stuck up bc he feels like he's a big wig at his company. They got us a bottle of dom perignon for our engagement because they like to throw their money around in people's faces. I'm sorry if I came off bratty, I guess I wrote it without thinking that you guys didn't know the back story. I was just alittle grumpy this morning bc of the job situation and I do appreciate their thought and gift later. She has just rubbed me the wrong way lately. I def won't be venting to you guys again!
Dude she appologized for not being prompt and wants to get you a gift. I don't get what there is to call the wambulance about. Clearly you haven't been around here at all or you would know this kind of post wouldn't go over well here.
I'm really not freaking out about it, it is really thoughtful to still get us something. I wasn't looking for advice...I just wanted to vent and I asked what was bugging you guys lately, too. I've been around here for a long time and I know u guys tend to freak out about posts that sound like this. I get it especially after rereading my first post! I was obviously wrong to say something like this and think that it wouldn't get commented on. I really am just stressed today and wanted to talk about it somewhere, guess this is the wrong place.
That's so true! Thanks for saying that, I was starting to feel like a terrible person. Guess I need the weekend more than I even know!
Yea! I'm from Erie - are you from PA?