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the world's tiniest violin is playing just for me
Ok, I know that this is not actually a justifiable complaint, but I have to let it out somewhere, so bear with me, you guys.
H got a new job, which is AWESOME b/c he'd been out of work for six months, and it was stressing us both out. So YAY. But: we thought he was going to always work the 7 a.m. to 3 p.m. shift. As it turns out he's been doing a lot of the 3 to 11 p.m. shift. With commute time, that means he gets home at 11:30 at night. It's so weird not having him around in the evenings - we always take turns cooking dinner for each other, but now it's just me and my sad dinner alone. Plus I'm half-asleep when he finally gets home, and it's kind of exhausting for him, too.
Sigh. I know. Not a big deal. And we'll get used to it (plus, it still *sounds* like he'll eventually be back on the day shift). But it's bugging me more than I thought it would. Blergh.
Re: the world's tiniest violin is playing just for me
I don't think that's a small complaint at all. Not seeing one another can be really tiring and stressful on both people. Try to make sure you stay connected through what is a sort of separation. Maybe make sure to leave each other cute notes and things and if possible, text while apart. Just try really hard to make sure that you don't let your relationship suffer.
I am SO thankful that DH and I are both teachers, so we don't have to worry about the shift thing. I think that would be so, so, so hard. DH's brother and SIL have to deal with this as SIL is on a rotating shift and the brother is on the same shift all the time.. so they go through periods like this, and it just seems hard.
No need to downsize this complaint! You just want more time with your new husband.
Try to make the time you DO have together extra special though?
This is never fun! My H worked nights off and on during our whole relationship. The longest he was on a 2pm-? shift was for around 6 months. It was terrible...we barely saw each other and it was around the time that my job was the most demanding so I was working some weekends when he was off.
The best thing you can do is get yourself in a routine (I would workout after work, make myself dinner, and hangout alot) and make time for your family and friends. It really makes you cherish and enjoy the time you do get together so make the best of it. Also, text and call each other a lot just to keep in touch and say I love you. I hope he's not on that shift for very long!