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sometimes I just wanna walk out!! >:(
ARG! This week has been so ridiculous at work. Well the past few months, really. We have been so busy and working late each night. Exhausting ourselves by putting "the petal to the metal" for 9 hours plus each day. My 2 coworkers and I have all been coming in a couple of minutes late for various reasons. (Mainly, commuting in NYC is unpredictable, and a whole bunch of different delays are typical and unavoidable).
Last week my boss started requesting that we come in early. EARLY. None of us really took to that, since we work overtime without getting paid and when I say we are coming in late, I mean like 9:04 or 9:08. Never more than 5-10 minutes late.
So Monday, my psycho boss waited by the elevators for us to come in. My poor co worker who is the newest one here and who has recently been feeling overwhelmed with the work load was the unfortunate one to get here first. My boss started screaming at her, and when my other coworker and I came in, we heard crazy yelling. My boss then screamed at the two of us, finger in our faces "9:00!!!!" and left, slamming the office door. We were speechless, while my coworker was crying, grabbing her stuff, and saying she's not gonna work for a maniac like him. So she quit on the spot. the end. 
When my boss got back, he came in and gave my other coworker and I a lecture about how we are totally ungrateful, could be working HARDER (HA!!!), and "it's not like you're digging ditches in the graveyard, so drop the bad attitudes". If ANYONE has a bad attitude, it's him. He's totally ungrateful that he found 3 suckers to work late for no over time, and bust our a$$es for his crappy pay. I'm so fed up I want to quit as well, but now I have to stick around to train whatever gullible person he finds to work here. I've been here 7 years, and he's just become such a slave driver. it wasn't like this before. I can't wait to quit. UGH. If I didn't need the reference from him, I'd walk out right along with that girl.
I'm just totally numb and pissed, and can't even look my boss in the face right now without wanting to punch him for being such a jerk.
Re: sometimes I just wanna walk out!! >:(
I am sorry to hear that you are going through that right now. Remember to breath in and out a few times and gather your thoughts again! I am in the same situation and what helps me is to think positive to break the reaction of negative thoughts ruminating over and over. It is hard, but it can work. Also, what are you doing to try to change your situation? Are you looking for another job?
Thanks.
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this as well. I know the economy is rough, and people out there are desperate, but it doesn't give employers the right to treat their workers like crap.
My plan was to quit back in July, but right now I cannot. The reason being is that my DH and I are trying to flip a house, so we have a mortgage on top of our rent in the city. Silly idea to try to flip a house now, but it was such a great deal with so much potential, we just went for it. In a few months, the repairs will be finished, and it will be on the market. My DH asked that I hold off on quitting til the house is sold. Then we'll (hopefully) have a good cushion of extra savings to last a while as I do freelance and look for a better 9-5.
I'm just sucking it up til then. My boss just took it soooo out of line this week though that it's very hard not to pull a Jerry McGuire. LOL
Haha! Yes, there have been times that I have wanted to walk out and just flip the bird on these people! But I also need the income now until our wedding in November. After that, I may even be content with taking a part-time job while figuring out what is it exactly that I want to do. At least that will give me more time to volunteer or find other opportunities.
Best of luck to you and your husband on flipping the house. Just think of the end results for now!
I feel for you. I had a verbally abusive boss back in the advertising industry whom I worked for for one year and one month. I walked out one day after putting my office key and parking garage pass on her desk. I couldn't take it any more it made me physically ill. I was coming in at 5:00am to get the work started for the day so I wasn't behind the 8-ball.
I agree that you need to stick it out. But, you can make a few things easiler on yourself.
1. Do come in before your boss. Not 5:00am, but ealier than him. You SHOULD be paid for this, but since you aren't I'd just come in early to avoid the conflict.
2. Get out for lunch time. Peak your head in his office and say, "I was in at 8:30. I am leaving for an hour for lunch. Can I pick you up anything? Bye." If he argues, just put your foot down and say that you are at a good break point and that you need a fresh perspective and need to eat.
3. Have a game out of it. Try and see how many times you can be nice to him.
ugh, that is not ok.
My boss is not abusive, but is kind of sucking the life out of people. He has no idea that over half of us are ready to walk (by that I mean actively looking elsewhere) and even if he did he would have no idea why.
It's really sad to watch. I'm relatively new but some people have been here over 30 years and have one foot out the door. So some days I force myself to try to see things from his perspective. If I was losing control of my company that my father started 50 years ago what would I think? How would I react? It just makes me feel sad for him, and want to do my best while I'm still here, but doesn't make me feel bad enough to want to stay. Most days that works for me. The other thing that I can use to push myself is knowing that the more I accomplish, the more I will learn and the better I will look to a future employer.