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i love him but..
me and my boyfriend been together for 2 years. he says he loves me but is not in love with me, and its very hurtful because i am in love with him he says in love is when he is read to get married but he says he loves me and will do anything for me. he says he can see us together in the future but doesnt know know when. am i just over thinking things?? i love him and i dont wanna leave him but i cant get it out of mind that were not going to be together but i dont know.
Re: i love him but..
I really do not understand then why he is wasting your time if he "loves you but is not in love with you". That sounds more like a friendship and even though great relationships are based on a solid foundation, girl you also need LOVE.
Have you discuss how this makes you feel? If he is aware of that and still does nothing, it is time to move on. It will hurt for a while, but trust me, you do NOT want to stick around a person who only sees you as an option. *Sending you a big, virtual hug*
its really confusing like i said is it just friend and he says no he says i can see us together i just cant tell you when? he says he really loves me he wouls walk through fire for me and its more then friend or family love. its like he is in love with me but doesnt say it and doesnt get it. does that make sense. thanks for the hug i needed that (:
He can't even give you a definite about marriage in the future?? 2 years is long enough to know whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody as a spouse.
Cut your losses and move on; find a man who will be thrilled to marry you and who cannot wait to do so. GL.
How old are you, and how old is this guy...if you are both young....he might just not be ready to get married yet, and he feels like you trying to push that on him. Same thing goes if you have not been dating for very long. I know us girls- even not so young ladies have a tendency to want the fairytale ending in a short amount of time (need evidence watch one episode of teen mom!) and guys are often content with things the way they are and dont want to move forward as fast.
Just some possibilities for you to think about.
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I was about to write something similar to this. Really....learning to love someone isn't the right way to fall in love. If he doesn't feel it now, then it's likely it won't happen.
The "I love you, but I am not in love with you" is a classic break-up line.
People who say it are chicken. He wants to break up, but he doesn't have the guts to do it himself. So, he thinks by telling you this line, you will break up with him, which is exaclty what he wants to have happen.
Two years is a long time. You are 20 (I am 30), I promise you that another very sweet, wonderful man will come along and he will both love you and be IN love with you.
You are 20!! exactly.
Still so young, the fact that he's telling you he's not "in Love".....is a little weird. However, him not knowing when you will get married is totally normal.
I'm not saying to stay with him..but if you think he does loves you and treats you good then just go with it and have fun. Marriage should not be anywhere in your near future so don't dwell on it. BUT, If he's not treating you like a queen then you are wasting your time. GL girl.