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Family Holiday Stress & it's only August!
Last year, before our wedding, we felt that we had to appease everyone in our families. Therefore, we spent Thanksgiving day with my family, and Thanksgiving night with his dads family. Christmas we spent with my family...I think, I can't remember.
This year, I said we should do whatever WE want to do and everyone can come to us if they'd like. I want to go to my parents for Thanksgiving, inviting everyone from both his dads side and his moms side (they're divorced, and his dad will been newly married). His dads side probably won't come, so we won't see them.
Which will make Christmas a hassle too. He'll want to see his dads side, since we won't have seen them for Thanksgiving, meanwhile I'd love to go to his moms side for Christmas, as we've never spent that with their side of the family.
Ugh. Drama.
Re: Family Holiday Stress & it's only August!
Do your parents really want to host your in laws? I don't see that being a whole lot of fun.
And I'm missing the drama. This simply sounds like you and your DH can't decide "what works best" for the two of you- what you want and what he wants don't mesh. That's called communication and compromise. Not drama.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I completely agree with this. Invite everyone over. And quit talking about Christmas. lol
I'm already sick and tired seeing Halloween decorations in store already! BAH!
Just host it in your home! There's no drama that way.
Of course it's a solution! It brings everyone together! You can invite both families. which isn't such a horrible idea! FI and do this every other Christmas and we LOVE doing it! So does our families! It gives people a break from having to host every year! We love decorating the home for Christmas and enjoy cooking and baking for the family. It's not always about going to someone elses house for the holidays!
We have a similar situation except it's my parents who are divorced.
Christmas eve we go to his parents, and christmas day we have breakfast with my dad's side of the family and dinner at my moms.
Next year we switch and do Christmas eve at my mom, and Christmas dinner at my in-laws. We always do breakfast with my dad and it seems to work out well.
Thanksgiving is never an issue because we live in Canada and celebrate it in October with my parents, but my husband and his family are originally from the states and we just do a second Thanksgiving in November!
Alternating is definitely the best, but sometimes you miss out on holidays with family, they should hopefully be mature about it and come to a compromise with you like having a nice sit down dinner another day.