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Facebook family status change
Back in the original days of listing your family statuses on facebook, there was only a mom designation, not a step-mom desgination. When my dad remarried (4 years ago), his wife sent a request to be labelled as my "mom" to which I accepted as there was no other designation at the time, I didn't want to be rude, and my bio-mom was not on facebook at this time.
Times have changed. My bio-mom is now on facebook and there is now a step-mom designator. However, my step-mom is someone who easily gets offended. I've been wanting to change her status to step-mom for a while now, but facebook will send her a request to accept this change and I'm afraid it's going to cause trouble with her. Opinions on this?
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Re: Facebook family status change
Imo, I think that if you get along with your bio-mom, you should deffinately change it. How could your step-mom get offended by a fact? She's been around for 4 years yes, but it still doesn't remove the fact that she is a "step" mom.
It really depends on the relationships. If you get along with Bio-Mom and she's in your life. Change it for sure. If your Step-mom has been more of a mom to you then leave it as it is.
Let's not forget either, that it's Facebook....not LIFE! If anyone get's offended over Facebook then they have a bigger concern to worry about.
Best of Luck.
I think it's fine.
What you said makes perfect sense--when she joined Facebook, you wanted to label her as family and there was no "stepmother" category then. Since that time, your bio mother has joined Facebook, and there are way more family categories now. She IS your stepmother, there should be no insult in it.
If she is insulted, refuse to indulge that--she's being silly.
How can she be offended? If she says something you might want to remind her she didnt carry you in her womb for 9 months and she didnt raise you- hence STEP mother. She didnt earn the label mother so she needs to get over it if she has a problem with it.
I wouldnt disrespect my mother just because I was worried about offended a step mother on FB.
If you are super nonconfrontational you could always remove her as a friend, then click to add her back and tell her you clicked on the wrong person or something. then when she is set back up as a friend you can use the proper designation. I wouldnt go through all that though.
Just change it.
This is what YOU want. If it's going to cause trouble with her, tell her she is your father's wife, and that if she wants to remain "family" she needs to accept the step-mom request, because your mother is your mom. Otherwise she can just be a regular friend.
Don't let her manipulate her because she is difficult / easily offended and causes a stink if she doesn't get her way. She doesn't have a right to be your FB mother or even your friend. This is supposed to be a two-way relationship.
"Let's not forget either, that it's Facebook....not LIFE! If anyone get's offended over Facebook then they have a bigger concern to worry about."
That made me giggle... I had a friend that got all up in arms over something that happened on Facebook. Her husband even sent me a very "attacking" facebook message because of it. I haven't heard from her since. People rely to heavily on Facebook anymore :-P
LOL...I consider that pretty sad. I love when people post up the story of their day like anyone on their list actually cares that they went for a walk or went to the dr's. I'm pretty sarcastic sometimes and IF one of my friends did that they wouldn't be surprised if I wrote a comment. I had a co-worker (back in the day...and NO she's not on my list...after a few status updates she was imediately removed) who would litterly write a full paragraph with no periods or anything. Just babbling about her day and her mood! *GAH*
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