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Any Ohio attorneys out there?
Need advice on leaving a verbally/emotionally abusive marriage and taking our children with me without asking husband's permission. HELP!
Re: Any Ohio attorneys out there?
No attorney but I strongly suggest:
WITHOUT telling him, safeguard your assets -- money, jewelry, stock, other investments --- if you have a joint bank account, take your money and open up a new account he has no knowledge of and deposit your money there.
Do the same with current bank accounts that you now have that are solely yours.
See an attorney to discuss assets you and he jointly have -- again, do not tell your spouse -- and also for chils support and child visitation issues.
Document everything.
And run a credit check on you and on him; one never knows.
Keep cash on you along with a fully charged cell phone.
And when all is ready and you've gotten your advice from the attorney, file for divorce and go.
Protect your kiddoes and yourself. Stay safe; wishing you luck.
My husband is an attorney (I am not).
Definitely start locating your family assets (print out a copy of your bank account, credit card, etc).
Call the local bar association to ask about lawyers in your area. Many lawyers give free consultations. You can get the basics of what to do immediately.
You could also call the local Job and Family Services Office for advice - they'll have someone who can advise you what to do to protect yourself and your children.
If you post in what metro area you are located I can post some links.
Is he abusive to the kids or just to you? Either way, it's legal for you to tape record some of the abuse. If you can record him saying awful things to the kids, it'll go a long way towards ensuring that he only gets supervised visitation or no visitation at all. Recordings of him abusing you will help, but not as much with the custody issue itself.
You can attempt to get a restraining order or involve the cops, but every jurisdiction is a little different and technically, you need to be in fear of physical harm to qualify for a TRO.
Other than that, I highly recommend that you schedule appointments with a few local DR attorneys and find somebody that you're comfortable working with. Ask specifically what steps you can take to protect yourself, your assets, and your kids while the divorce is pending.