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We have the worst neighbor luck :(
I can't believe this is happening again! DH and I have lived in 5 different places together, and in 4/5 we've had bad neighbors. (Remember our neighbor at our last house with demensia?) I know a couple of ppl who live in the neighborhood we built in, and they both said that they love the neighborhood, so despite our history the thought of hating our neighbors wasn't a concern...
Then, over the last couple of weeks, we started to hear some things about the ppl who are going to be next to us (they're about a month behind us on their timeline). We met the guy and his two boys, and they seemed a little wild, but we weren't overly worried. Then our project manager began slipping some information about them, and we started to worry more. They are over at their house constantly, so it wasn't long after we moved in that the woman wondered over to introduce herself. Between my conversation with her (during which she revealed just about every detail of her life) and the gossip from our neighbors, I've now learned the following:
-- She is a (former?) drug addict.
-- Her mother is buying them this house as an incentive to keep her off of drugs.
-- It may not be working (she literally couldn't complete a sentence without slurring, so she's either still on drugs, or on methodone, or just permanently fried).
-- Her boys are (by her own description) "so bad." One has ADHD and autism and she can't trust him to walk to the bus stop alone for fear that he'll "hit someone." They stopped by a block party a couple of weeks ago and this child pinned a 4yo girl to the ground and was punching her. The dad is planning to put targets accross the street where the unfinished portion of the plan is so that his kids can sit on the roof and shoot BB guns.
-- Their house cost approx. $85,000 more than ours and she's on social security (which runs out next June) and he's a shop teacher. She said that she smokes but she's not going to be able to afford to buy her cigarettes (let alone furniture) once they move in because their mortage is going to be so high.
-- They do not get along. They were previously seperated (or divorced). One day they were at the house fighting so badly that the subcontractors went to the model to ask our sales rep whether they should leave. When the project manager showed up to see what was happening, they explained that "that's just how (they) communicate."
Every neighbor we've met has said "so... have you heard about the people who are building next door to you?" The whole neighborhood is bracing for these people to arrive like a hurricane is coming. Like people who live two cul de sacs away. And they are our next door neighbors. WHY? This was supposed to be our forever home, and DH is already saying things like "IF we stay here" and "maybe we shouldn't spend too much money (on whatever we're discussing) in case we have to move again." My only hope is that they divorce or foreclose. Both seem like a possibility. I feel awful wishing that on someone, but that's how I feel 
Re: We have the worst neighbor luck :(
Oh man, you guys do have bad luck in that department! I don't even have any advice to give out, I hope that maybe things will turn around for them and they will straighten themselves out before moving in.
So other than that mess, how are you liking the house??
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
Wow - what a bad situation. And the mother is such an enabler! My thought is that this will end in foreclosure. Hang in there and keep your distance as much as possible.
My three sons!
Thanks girls. Right, Clare? I mean really... if this girl can't stay off drugs for her family or herself she is not going to get clean for a new house. I just don't understand this rationale at all. If anything, building and moving into our house has made me want to TAKE drugs!
I'm worried about their shenanigans being an intrusion o, but mostly I am concerned about the boys around my kids and about her driving past my house every day all wacked out. One of the things we loved about this place was that it felt safe for our kids and now I feel like that has been taken away. I just never thought in a plan like this we'd end up with those kinds of neighbors.
Otherwise, the house is great. We're filling it up more quickly than I would've expected given the size of our last house, but it's good! DH is OCD so he's unpacking like crazy. Everyone who comes by comments on how organized our garage is already
I agree with this completely. Sorry to hear you're going to deal with this, but don't make any big decisions until you're there for a while and see what happens.
Oh man Mandy. I am sorry to hear this. I agree that it sounds like they will not be lasting too long and a foreclosure is in sight. Just try to keep your distance as much as you can and enjoy the house! Do we see pics of the house decisions you made from our input?:):)
How is the situation at your mom's house with the neighbor girl?
We are repainting a lot of the rooms this week, so I will probably snap some pics this weekend I can share!
I almost forgot about that neighbor situation! She is back in school now, so hopefully not around as much. She has been over to play, but my mom is on top of it now and won't let her use the bathroom anymore unless she agrees to go alone.
That's a really tough situation. I would just hope for the best, meet some other great neighbors and pray its not as bad as everyone says.
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
OMG - nice. Hopefully everything will be OK and she will be the source for many amusing stories. good luck
glad you like your new home otherwise.
OMG - nice. Hopefully everything will be OK and she will be the source for many amusing stories. good luck
glad you like your new home otherwise.
My mom didn't want to say anything to her mom. I told her that I thought that she should (and that I'd do it if she wasn't comfortable), but she doesn't want to and given that it's her neighbor and not mine I want to respect her wishes. If anything else were to happen I'd have to reconsider, but I'm hoping that the new bathroom policy is enough (and that there's nothing more to it on her end than curiousity).
Wow - that is too bad. We just moved a few weeks ago and luckily (so far) our neighbors seem pretty good although the one did get a little "tipsy" over the weekend and was telling me and my husband her entire life story (the good, the bad and the ugly lol). Some things should just be private. Hopefully things won't be as bad as they seem. Good luck.
I do have to say, I think that's some what "normal" in new neighborhoods. I know a couple of my neighbors gave themselves a tour of our house and they are perfectly nice and normal. I've heard of others doing it on other plans too.
I had no idea! We're such rule followers, we barely took unguided tours of our own house once we had doors, let alone others! Not that it matters with none of our stuff in it. It probably wouldn't have even struck me as odd if it was one of the nice, normal people we met, but anything coming from her creeped me out.
Yep, happens all the time. I can pretty much guarantee all of the people on my parents' street have been in the house across the street that is under construction since my mom and the neighbors where discussing how it is so small.
That really sucks. If you think she's driving around while high, definitely call the cops.
Married, September 23, 2006