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I'm sorry, I need to vent
So my friend that I wrote about a little while ago...the one that got dumped, and I was feeling so sorry for.......she did it again. ARG!!!!
She meets some guy online, and as a "first date" spent a WEEKEND in a cabin in the woods with him! Who does that!? Who in their right mind would travel away from the public and lock themselves in a cabin with a stranger? Of course "intimate" things happened. And of COURSE, the guy is now saying he can't tie himself down to a relationship, but he'd gladly be a friend with benefits. Surprised? I'm not. And yet....somehow in her telling me this story she is so proud of how she handled herself this time around, and how she is "in control". Really.
I'm wondering if I should just drop this chick. Because I am tired of hearing these stories and tragedies about her love life, constantly being asked for advice, to which she does not follow. And not to mention, she does not like when I talk about my DH or my marriage, because SHE isn't married yet, and it's "depressing" to her when she hears about my marriage. I'm starting to see this as a very one sided friendship. I dont' even know how to respond to this story about the past weekend. I guess she wants me to be happy that she met someone, but how can I be when I see completely where this is going...it's going to be another 8 months of her pining away for some guy who doesn't even care about her. And her being in a bad mood, and not up for doing anything fun, or talking about love because she's going to be grieving over this stupid fling. 
Re: I'm sorry, I need to vent
I am slightly confused because the last post..if it's the one I think your speaking of...you were saying what a great person she is. But none of this matters when she can't even be a good enough friend to listen to you talk about your MARRIAGE. Which if your anything like me then that is your life basically. I don't see how she just brushes you off like that when you mention your own marriage.
She has some balls to say she doesn't like when you talk about it. If that were me and I for whatever reason couldn't pull my head out of my own ass and be happy for a friend because of a marriage then I would at least pretend! I would cut her out if I were you or at least talk to her about it.
Yeah, the thing is she wants to be married SO BADLY! I guess that is why hearing about my married life is unsettling for her. Not that I'm excusing it....a friendship should be give and take. This has been building up for a while now and I'm noticing this intolerance she has for hearing about good things in my life. Meanwhile, I care about her so much, and want her to be happy. I'm usually her cheerleader, but at this point, watching her make bad decision after bad decision regarding men, I'm so over it. She keeps throwing herself at these mediocre men. I feel like I'm forcing a smile now, cause I already know how the train wreck is going to end.
I am definitely starting to question what it is that I get out of this friendship.
The woman/guy in question has only herself or himself to blame. I'll bet your friend has a pattern of meeting and falling for jerks like these.
And yeah, you're right -- who with any common sense runs off with a stranger and locks themself away with that person?
Maybe you should rethink this friend. She sounds scattered and too needy.
In my last post, when I was feeling badly for her, I guess I had thought she learned her lesson from getting jerked around by the last guy. It's disheartening (and EYE OPENING) to watch her repeat her mistakes with such vigor. lol. To not heed any advice, from me, or from her own self! I thought more of her character before this stuff happened over the weekend. It's just tough though, because I don't want to be judgmental, and I definitely don't want to have to be her mom. Also, I should note that she is in her mid 30s and so this is not some young 20something that is experimenting. She should know better by now when it comes to men, and also should have learned to be happy for others right now too. Its just a big turn off even as a friend that she is acting this way.