Sex & Romance
EricaOO
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Gradual decline.... sorry, a bit long
I've frequented this board but am sorta new. I got married to my best friend about 2 months ago. We get along, he still makes me laugh, we absolutely love each other and I have been on cloud 9 as a new wife...for the most part. The sex part has fizzled out. My DH got a new job in law enforcement so he goes to bed super early to be out the door in the morning at 4:30am. So we're not going to bed together or getting up together in the morning. I realize there are other times to do it but it's just not happening. When the weekends roll around, it's almost kinda awkward bc we actually have to make a point to do it. How romantic, huh? We are now having sex about 1-2 times a week. When we were dating, it was 4-5 times a week. Anyone else have this problem? I expected a decline eventually but not 2 months in. We've talked about this before and both acknowledged that sex is important in a marriage but we haven't really acted on it since having that convo. Help?
Re: Gradual decline.... sorry, a bit long
It's adjustment plus he's got a new job. This is bound to ursurp your former sex schedule.:)
You'll have to make time. Sad but true.
Here's the fun part:
It's up to the BOTH of you to be creative in this endeavor. The fun factor and the suprise factor will play a big role in your "sex dates."
Maybe try some roleplaying; One day, borrow his cop uniform and you :"arrest" him. Let nature take its course on the rest.
Do this in the privacy of your home; I don't want to see you get busted for impersonating an officer.:)
Ugh, I've heard marriage was a sex killer. I would say try to get on the same schedule somehow...my best friend (newlywed--last year) works days and her husband works nights...I don't know how they are making that work. Sex is important...Are you home when he gets off work?? There has got to be a few strings you can pull to make him want you then....sexting during the day, wearing something sexy when he gets home etc.
My bf and I have been having scheduled sex and it definitely sucks compared to unscheduled, I feel ya there.
Marriage itself is not the sex killer...the people in it are.
This.
Both of you got to step it up! "I'm tired" is not an excuse. Neither is a headache
Good Luck!
Being married to a LEO is a whole different life style. Missed functions, holidays etc. The hours are usually lousy.