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Do you love your home?
Regrets.....I've had a few.....
Sassafrass. When we bought her we had plans to rehab Sassy, add on, quit our jobs in nyc and find work and settle into living in HV.... Then the economy went to the crapper, J's hours we drastically cut in Construction/Demo and he started a business which does better in NYC. I thought after putting in my 5 years at firm and becoming vested, I'd settle into work closer to home. Lotta good all those plans were.
Now, despite the puff back and drawn out reconstruction of home, I hate it. The bedrooms are not big enough, the layout is not inspiring me, we lost a "bedroom" to gain a full bath but still want that proper 3 bedroom home. Maybe I am being pissy because of the amount of time I have not been in my house and the fact IT IS STILL NOT DONE. Maybe I really bought the wrong house, which no sane person will ever want to buy.
What we thought was forever home is turning into worst decision ever made. Do you ever feel like that? Am I being a drama queen?
Re: Do you love your home?
I love our home but sometimes not necessarily the location. At times I wish we were closer to Rockland. I could go home for a dinner hour, enroll A in programs through my job, stuff like that. But I have also made some really good friends living where we are and that might not have happened if we were somewhere else
Im sure you chose your home for a reason. There was a time when u loved it. It will take some time to get it to that place. Maybe you and J need to decide if u truly want to stay there. Maybe fix the house so it's good enough and put it on the market. Youve done enough work to it from the start that I'm sure someone would be interested in it!
I hope you guys can figure it all out! Xoxo
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I'm in a similar boat as you sugar- we bought our condo in 06 and are kind of stuck in it right now. We also bought in very bad shape so besides losing money we also put so much of our own time and effort into fixing it up so it is tough.
There are a lot of things I like: location, neighbors, 2 car garage, storage, everything is new. But then there's a lot I don't like: no private outdoor space, only 2 br so when DH's family comes there is no where for them to stay, and we have a very small living /dining room which makes it really hard to entertain more than 4 extra people. The worst is that about 3 yrs ago DH's office moved about twice the distance that it originally was in NJ. We tried to sell and move to NJ then but the highest we got for an offer was still too low. The sad thing is that now we'd be lucky to get even 20k less than that if we were selling...
We bought this house KNOWING we would move soon, just not expecting 2 kids in it.
I never had a "forever" home growing up by 9th grade I had already had 6 addresses, 3 in same town:) LOL I can't wait to move and I know DH wants that to be our home until retirement before "he" goes out West.
Our plans have been derailed until I go back to work we will move. We have put a lot of work into our house, and at this point we should be able get what we paid or more, but we got a deal for our house.
IMO, if this is how you feel and you haven't been in it for such a long time put it up for sale, if it sells tomorrow it sells, if it takes a while is takes a while, see what happens.
for the most part yes. but it's a condo- so unless you love stairs (four floors) the floor plan is not ideal. my biggest gripe is no seperate play space/ adult space. technically we have an adult room, but it's our (finished) basement so it doesnt get used much unless i wanna jog 3 flights when the kids call. i often dream about a house with an open floor plan that i just dont have. my wish list would be- one more bedroom, a formal dining room (right now we have a living/dinig arrangement- which is a waste with kids), open concept, playroom, big backyard. that said, we really love our neighborhood. it's incredibly convenient, beautifully maintained. the truth is, i dont know if we are really house people. i like the idea in theory. but we dont know jack about maintaining one. dh grew up in the city so he has no clue other than "call the super." me, well my parents did everything or hired someone. we bought our current place as a 5 year house. next year would be 5 years, but i dont know if im rushing to move. im not crazy about the public schools in my town- which is really the biggest issue. although we have time. i'm not sure what would happen if we listed it now. some of our neighbors in similar units have recently sold cheap, others have sold for more than we bought. we just sold (well it's in contract) our coop in the city- we have been saying that was what was holding us back from moving. but in reality, we arent ready to do anything now. however, i'm always looking! the financing is just too cheap right now to pass up if we find anything great.
houses are tricky. it's one of those- the grass is always greener types of things, ya know. at least we all have a good roof over our heads.
Love is a strong word, lol. I like our house and i love our location. The house is small and we bought it with the hopes that one day we could add on since we have the land/space to do it. The house works well for now, it has 3 bedrooms but one bathroom, its a ranch and we have a full basement. But its just us and the cat and dog. we could survive as is with one baby but i know it would be incredibly tight.
The house was outdated cosmetically when we bought it, so we updated it a bit with paint and refinishing floors. We partially updated the kitchen (new counters and appliances and left the old cabinets as they are)
The original plan was to live in it for 5 years and then investigate the thought of adding another level and re-vamping the main floor, we'll see we have been in it 3 years this month. I worry that it will be cheaper to just move, but we really do LOVE our location.