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Khadydra · September 2012

My boyfriend and I have only been together for three months and we are starting to step out of the cute stage. Even though our relationship is very young we have a very strong connection. He is the first man I can honestly say I want to spend the rest of my life with and I'm not afraid. Unfortunately he is starting to become very comfortable with the idea of me and isn't doing the things that he used to. I have just recently expressed my feelings to him. I was wondering if anyone had experienced the same thing and if so, how did you deal with it? Any feedback is appreciated.

ReturnOfKuus · September 2012

I think telling him that you really liked those things he was doing and were disappointed that they stopped was a good idea.

smlove11 · September 2012

Well I'm in sort of the same situation but reversed. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and I've noticed that I don't put in as much effort as I did in the beginning. I love him very much and don't ever want to lose him so what I did was ask him if he noticed any changes to our relationship. Or changes in me. He voiced his concerns and now I'm aware of how he felt and now I'm going to try and put the effort in like I did in the beginning. Basically what I'm trying to say is he can't read your mind. Let him know how you are feeling and express your concerns. If he doesn't care to make things better or put in the effort than you need to tell him how important it is to you that your relationship doesn't start to feel like a marriage only 3 months in. Also slow things down. If you rushed things (relationship, saying I love you) that can really take the flare out of the honey moon stage. Take your time enjoy the little things and stop worrying about the future. Don't take it so seriously. Have fun.

Jaje09182010 · September 2012

Some relationships gradually fade out over time even when they are super intense and loving in the beginning. I think that as time passes, he might not do the same things he use to, but he will come to mean more to you in a different way. You will start to see (or not) the partnership grow, and you'll gain more trust and respect for that individual.

Keeping the romance alive is important too so don't be afraid to suggest romantic things and do onto him as you would want done to you

jade7733 · September 2012

Three months is not very far into a relationship. At this point your boyfriend should still be doing all of the things you like without you even having to mention it to him. I think it's great that you are communicating your feelings to him and not sitting back staying quiet. You should continue to talk to him about your feelings. If he cares enough about the relationship he will start to do the things that you miss again.

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