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Baby Fever...talk me down!
I don't know what the heck my problem is lately. When Cole was born I swore that I didn't want another one for a loooong time, at least 2-3 years. I had a pregnancy scare at 4 months and almost had a heart attack. But now he is crawling, getting teeth, walking along furniture, and SLEEPING a little better (!) and suddenly I am getting baby fever again. He is only 9 months this Saturday and I know in my head that we need to wait until at least spring before we start trying again (this is the plan and I'm not even going to bring up to DH changing the plan), but I keep having thoughts about having another one and wouldn't it be kind of nice if they were close together. Which I never thought I'd say in a million years.
I guess I just think back to pregnancy and Cole's birth and newborn stage and remember how amazing and life-changing it was, and I can't wait to experience that again. And the sleep deprivation and stress is starting to fade away so another baby doesn't sound as scary as it once did.
So please ladies, tell me I'm crazy, because we aren't ready yet :-) I guess the next 6-9 months until we start trying again will probably go pretty quickly.
Re: Baby Fever...talk me down!
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Thanks for telling me I'm not crazy lol, I think like Steph said it is a natural feeling. We are still going to go with the original plan of spring/summer, which will make them 2+ years apart, but I can't help thinking about it a lot, especially when Cole has his adorable, happy, sleep through the night days (like yesterday!) But knowing how stressed I was when Cole was born, I don't want to jump the gun and throw another one in the mix too quickly, I think I'd have a nervous breakdown with two really young ones.
I think if I pushed the issue just a little bit, DH would jump on board. Just because of little comments he's made in the past. But I think for my own sanity that first year of having two kids, I need to wait. I want Cole to be a little more independent and able to communicate pretty well before we take the plunge.
Steph-how are things going for you? I know you guys are trying again right? I have a feeling it's going to happen soon!!!
Amy-I have sisters that are 6 and 8 years older than me and we are really close now, I love the age gap. I was blessed with a twin as well though so I also had that built in playmate. My mom always said that she was glad we were twins (although I bet she was overwhelmed) because we had each other to play with while growing up.
We tried for 4 months and no luck. I'm under a lot of stress working 2 jobs & writing my thesis all while being a mom, so we are taking a break until some insurance stuff gets sorted out (DH is a contractor so has his own insurance separate from ours and it's getting pricey so we may have to have him get a different independent insurance). Since I don't want another Oct baby (Sam shouldn't have to share her birth month, I share mine with my mom and youngest brother and didn't like that growing up) or a Nov/Dec/Jan baby b/c of how many family birthdays are in there we will probably start shooting for Feb 2014 next spring/summer.
I'm not "okay" with the not trying yet (working on it) and just about everyone I know is having their second and pregnancies are popping out of the woodwork right now, so it blows. I am dreading the age gap of 2.5 years or more, because I grew up with it and it sucked. I mean I STILL don't get along with my brother and we are in our 20s. But oh well God has a plan it's just not the plan I had in mind.