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Anger Issues
My husband is angry all the time, nothing can calm him. He has a very stressfull job in the army so on some levels I can understand it, but I still want him to get help for it. He has blown up and broken his hand on a tree before a few years back and more recently assaulted his commanding officer, I dont want our son to witness anything like that. (He has never hit me or our son, Im just worried about the negative influence) He says that going to see someone wont help but Im positive it will. Any advice?
Re: Anger Issues
sorry to hear that
Did he grow up in a hostile environment? A lot of times people with anger issues are a product of how they were raised. What's his family like?
It really does sound like he needs to speak to a therapist, and work through these issues. Unfortunately there's this stupid stigma about going to "see a shrink" or what have you. It can do a world of good if he can put aside his preconceived notions about it. Maybe if you go together it won't be so weird for him?
A complete medical checkup.
Bad mood swings and anger problems could signal thyroid hyper/hypo activity --- and you bet that an overactive or underactive thyroid can make you moody, irritable and confrontational as hell.
Have his doc do a full thyroid screen. if it turns out that he has a thyroid problem, it's fixable with medication.
Thyroid problems can also play havoc with many many bodily issues.
He also needs to be checked out for diabetes or hypoglycemia (low blood sugar can have the same effect: make you confrontational).
If he is taking meds, meds can interact with other meds and cause mood problems.
If all checks out and he is having a bona fide anger problem, he needs anger management stat.
Assaulting other people is not normal. Nor is punching out a tree because you're having an anger blow up. GL.
You can't force him to get help. He has to want to get help. And i think a better way of putting it is 'he hasn't hit me or my son, yet'.
Let him know you're worried for his safety and the safety of your son and your self. And that if he doesn't get help he is leaving you with no choice but to take your son into a safer environment. However, once you make that ultimatum, you have to be ready to act on it. Don't make empty threats.
Your son will grow up thinking this is the way to react and behave in life. You are his only advocate.