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MIL Troubles
So the situation I am in is kind of weird. 1 year ago husbands dad passed right before we got engaged. We had no money and my husband is still in school full time. My mother in law suggested we move in with her and help her out with the house upkeep and bills etc. We did that and got married in july. Now we cant make a move without her okay. We have discussed this with her and she still sits around acting like some queen of the castle. I have done everything I can to earn my keep but its not enough. I cook, clean, do the yard wotk and make sure she has everything she needs. I do all this on top of a full time job as an EMT. I am tired. If i am not home to cook we have bacon and eggs for dinner. After a long day thats not going to cut it. Her attitude is seriously bringing me down. In my MIL's head her daughter and son in law are perfect and we are the black sheep. We do everything and get accused of taking advantage of my MIL by my SIL. We all used to be close now I cant wait to save enough money to get away from this woman. I am even taking a different job that pays more so this can become a reality sooner rather than later. I love wotking in the ambulance on the street but the pay sucks and I will not be stuck in this house any longer than i have to. Just needed to vent. Thanks for reading
Re: MIL Troubles
This means you and he were to be financially solid enough to afford your own dwelling, even if it was a studio apartment, and NOT rely upon moving in with a relative or friend.
The horse is out of the barn here on this one --- I suggest that you and he move out immediately, even if it is a studio apartment in a basement.
It's never a good idea to live with other people, particularly when you are first married. You and he need the crucial time alone to adjust.
All,of this.
I don't really know why some people have to be so judgmental on these boards...
Some times parents act differently to their children. Maybe she doesn't know that this is even going on. Sucks that it's happening, but getting out ASAP is probably your best option.
My mom lives with her mom and it definitely causes strain on their relationship. My boyfriend recently moved back in (we're moving in together in a few days) with his family, and they've had a few fights.
Relationships just get strained living with people.