May 2012 Weddings
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People suck!

H and I have a wedding to go to this weekend. I asked H to call the groom to be (his good friend...H is a groomsmen) to see if they are doing a rehearsal/dinner Friday night so I could plan ahead   

Well they are, but I'm not invited. Seriously!?  

Im pissed, H said "well they are paying themselves" and I was like that makes no difference! If they can't spend a lot of money fine, have pizza or something cheap at their own house, but to not include SOs is,I'm my opinion, extremely rude!  

Ugh I am SO not looking forward to going to this wedding, even more than before because of all of this.

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Re: People suck!

  • This happened to my friend at my H's old roomates wedding...only it was the wedding! H and I were invited (and not married yet- H was the best man) and then this girls bf (a groomsman) was invited and she wasn't....it was very awkward because we are all in the same circle of friends....

    This same girl then offered to not come to my wedding/rehersal dinner because she had heard that we had space/budget concerns...I told her of course she should come!!!! To both the rehersal dinner and the wedding!

    I think some people are really just clueless when it comes to social gathering planning....

  • That is tacky, and I'd be pissed too.  And, really, today is Wednesday and a GM had to call them to ask about the rehearsal?  Annoying.  I don't think you have to be etiquette savvy to recognize that all of that is rude.

    Get them a cheap present!

     

  • I think it's extremely rude, too - like people said, they don't need a 5 course dinner.  We were planning on pizza & beer before H's dad & stepdad volunteered to pay for the whole thing (forgot to budget for the entire rehearsal...oops!)

    I'd probably say something snarky about it if/when someone asks about it, or at the wedding like "oh, they could afford favors for everyone, but they couldn't afford to have the GM's wives at the RD?"  But I guess I'm just mean like that ;) 

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  • I can't get over how tacky/rude this is!I'd probably want H to decline going. Or maybe just go to the rehearsal and skipdinner. We also paid for our RH and weplanned one that included all significantothers/spouses. That's no excuse!
  • This is exactly why we did pizza! We knew it was a super large group and no place could accomdate us. We never thought of telling people no spouses our only thing was you had to be in a serious relationship which most of our people were engaged, married or had been together years. 

    This is extremely tacky! What's next can the FG and RB's parents not come with their kid? 

  • Wow.... That's pretty special. There are easy ways to have a low budget RD. We had a backyard BBQ. The biggest expense there was the booze we bought for it. Yeesh. I'd be upset too, so rude! 
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  • The thing that really gets me is that this isn't a large group of people...maybe 4 groomsmen and prob the same amount of BMs, so honestly it would be an extra 8 people (thats if every WP member has a SO.) I can't imagine the thought process of these people who would rather be rude than properly host their VIPs!

    Since we usually do $ for wedding gifts, I'm FULLY planning on writing the check out to "Mr. and Mrs. Newlastname" so that its a pain in the ASS for them to try and cash. I'd do a monogrammed toaster or something ugly, but I don't want to carry a gift to the wedding...lol

    I don't expect H to decline on dinner, its his good friend and honestly I'd rather him go to see if any other SOs were invited (If some were and I was the only one left out, I'm going to be even more pissed than I am now) 

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    BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron <3

  • imageAurorasEnvy:

    I think it's extremely rude, too - like people said, they don't need a 5 course dinner.  We were planning on pizza & beer before H's dad & stepdad volunteered to pay for the whole thing (forgot to budget for the entire rehearsal...oops!)

    I'd probably say something snarky about it if/when someone asks about it, or at the wedding like "oh, they could afford favors for everyone, but they couldn't afford to have the GM's wives at the RD?"  But I guess I'm just mean like that ;) 

    I'm probably going to be judging everything about their wedding now...its sad because I'm a nice person until someone really pisses me off. I looked up the hotel they are getting married at, found the wedding packages PDF and searched for the meals we were offered....about $100/plate, with lots of lower priced foods and they'll probably some stupid expensive trinket for the favor...yet they can't afford to host a RD properly for their WP members.....I can't wait to update all of you on Sunday!

    Oh I'm also guessing that they'll be a full cash bar...great! Guess I'll be drinking water all night long.

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    Missing Our July Sparkler
    BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
    BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron <3

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