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Shower Invite - Etiquette Question
Ok ... to me this is tacky and therefore I'm having a hard time figuring out how to say this, so I need some assistance. My MIL is throwing a seperate shower for my SIL to be and I (stupidly) offered to help out do the invites. My BIL and SIL are registered at BB&B but they just bought a house so they want gift card's to Home Goods and Home Depot too (they just bought a house this week). I don't have a problem putting they are registered at BB&B on the invite, but I can't come up with a good way to request gc's to other stores bc it's not something I have ever seen done. SOO ... help me out - how I can appease my MIL and BIL and put this on the invite without it sounding weird?
Re: Shower Invite - Etiquette Question
How nice that someone is throwing a party for BIL and SIL-to-be.
They don't get to request where their gift cards come from. Omit it from the invite.
I think putting where people are registered in invites is tacky anyway. You're supposed ask someone. But now that I'm seeing this I fear my stance might be antiquated.
I also think they need to register at those stores if it's possible. If not just put the phrasing in there about how to make their new home a warm and welcoming place gift cards to Home goods and Home Depot are very appreciated.
Pretty much this exactly.
I'm with you. I wouldn't do it.
One option would be to leave off any registry information. Most people will then ask where's she's registered and verbally or over email you could explain they just bought a house and would be really appreciative of GCs to certain places. Risk you run here is that people just buy stuff they feel like from any store (hopefully with a gift receipt attached).
While I think it's tacky, what about some sort of poem? I just was googling... found this... will try to find others.
NEWLYWED BRIDAL PARTY INVITATION POEM
Tableware, they have plenty,Enough pots for their own store.
But they?ve bought an old house And there?s a lot to do
Manual labor?s an issue but supplies cost lots too
So if you want gift ideas Gift cards from Home Depot will suit
Help them buy two by fours To make their home cute
Thank you erbur - this is my thought EXACTLY ... that being said- I am fighting so many battles just trying to design the invite and get the needed info that I am about to stop caring. I always thought the same thing - if you are old school, just putting the registry on there is frown upon , but ... I wouldn't hesitate putting that on there as I was a bride and a mommy to be and I putu a lot of thought into my registries.
"The couple is registered at BB&B and would also welcome gift cards from the Home Depot and HomeGoods."
I've learned to get over my own opinions on what I think is tacky when it comes to showers. It's what the couple wants and so you just do it because you love them, it's their day and a year from now, no one will remember what the little register card in the shower invitation said on it.
What is a Jack and Jill??? Someone please clue me in!!!
ding ding we have a winner
Dude. Ditto!
I have NEVER heard of paying PAYING to go to a J&J shower. I've been to two of them and did not have to pay for either of them. It was just coed like Jess said above where there were gifts for the girl, gifts for the guy (like power tools and stuff), and then gifts for the both of them. Def no cover charge for a J&J shower. That's just cray.
I've been to two that were like just like I described. I think the tickets for both were $20.00. On the plus side, you're not expected to bring a gift.
WTF?! And here, i thought i've heard and seen it all with my tacky family, this just took the cake! Hey, why not just ditch the wedding and shower and just have a beef & beer cause thats what this sounds like!
Snort and spit take.
Exactly. What NQ is explaining is more like a Beef and Beer to raise money for a cause... not like any Jack and Jill shower I've been to. It's just so... weird.
The word is trashy. I hate that I have to be a part of this but it's what they want....
I think is perfect. There's no real way to sugar coat it, so you might as well make it short & sweet.
Now let me get back to trying to wrap my head around the idea of charging admission to a bridal shower... I was also under the impression that a J&J shower was just a co-ed shower.
I agree. IDK, I guess I'm out of the etiquette scene, but this wouldn't bother me in the least. I would rather give them what they need and/or will use instead of something that will go unused.