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Am I wrong?

I'm under the impression that anyone you invite to an engagement party should be invited to the wedding. Am I wrong?

Re: Am I wrong?

  • I believe you are correct.
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  • I don't think you're wrong.
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  • I don't think you're wrong, but I do think there is some wiggle room.  I would guess there is a decent amount of time between an engagement party and a wedding.  The couple might have thought they would invite you to the wedding, but then had to cut their guest list when cost became a reality.  If you were invited to the shower, and not the wedding, then I would side eye.  Also, the engagement party could have been thrown by someone else (friend or family member) that wouldn't necessarily know who the couple was or wasn't planning on inviting.
  • That's how I always understood it. Firedancer has some good points, too.
  • imagefiredancer1028:
    I don't think you're wrong, but I do think there is some wiggle room.  I would guess there is a decent amount of time between an engagement party and a wedding.  The couple might have thought they would invite you to the wedding, but then had to cut their guest list when cost became a reality.  If you were invited to the shower, and not the wedding, then I would side eye.  Also, the engagement party could have been thrown by someone else (friend or family member) that wouldn't necessarily know who the couple was or wasn't planning on inviting.

    yeah - good points.

    some people throw engagement parties as big bashes/get togethers and not a fancy event.  In that case, I think its likely that some people are invited to the engagement party and not the wedding. 

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  • imagefiredancer1028:
    I don't think you're wrong, but I do think there is some wiggle room.  I would guess there is a decent amount of time between an engagement party and a wedding.  The couple might have thought they would invite you to the wedding, but then had to cut their guest list when cost became a reality.  If you were invited to the shower, and not the wedding, then I would side eye.  Also, the engagement party could have been thrown by someone else (friend or family member) that wouldn't necessarily know who the couple was or wasn't planning on inviting.

     

    I think you are generally right, firedancer makes good points, but IMO it's still in bad taste.

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  • imageKathrynMD:

    imagefiredancer1028:
    I don't think you're wrong, but I do think there is some wiggle room.  I would guess there is a decent amount of time between an engagement party and a wedding.  The couple might have thought they would invite you to the wedding, but then had to cut their guest list when cost became a reality.  If you were invited to the shower, and not the wedding, then I would side eye.  Also, the engagement party could have been thrown by someone else (friend or family member) that wouldn't necessarily know who the couple was or wasn't planning on inviting.

    yeah - good points.

    some people throw engagement parties as big bashes/get togethers and not a fancy event.  In that case, I think its likely that some people are invited to the engagement party and not the wedding. 

    This is what our engagement party was. We had a big party, but I'm pretty sure we invited all to the wedding. I do know a few people came who we didn't invite to either event, but that's H's family craziness. 

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