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Went to a wedding this weekend...
The one that I was complaining about the other day because of the fact that I wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner.
The ceremony and cocktail hour were outside in a garden area setting...open bar, cheese and hummus were available for snacking on (no passed apps...which is usually my fav part of the wedding!)
H was in the wedding so I made friends with H's friend's wives who were all, like me, less than thrilled to be there.
We go into the reception, and the first thing I notice is the head table....seats for just the BM, GM and B&G....so I get to sit without my H at dinner. Fine, whatever...
Dinner wasn't served until about 8:30 (reception started at 6:45ish.) I had chicken, nothing great about it at all, but oh well.
The bar was cash bar (not even accepting credit cards) for the entire reception. I had no cash on me, had to go to the ATM ($3.50) fee JUST to get a SODA, which cost me $4.00....for a glass of Sprite!
I sat at dinner with H's friend's wives (their Hs were also in the wedding) and someone brought up the rehearsal...and we all were like WTF weren't we invited?!? So I'm glad I wasn't the only one feeling slighted about not being invited.
The reception was over at 10:30 (only 2 hrs after dinner was served)
We stuck around a bit at the hotel and hung out with some of H's friends.
All in all it wasn't THAT bad of a time mostly because I made new friends who were all feeling the same way as me about being there....no one really likes the bride, but we're all married to/dating friends of the groom so we had to put on our happy faces for the day!
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Re: Went to a wedding this weekend...
Well, I'm not surprised one bit that they had a traditional head table with no spots for dates if they didn't even invite you to the RD! I assume if they didn't even give you guys a heads up about that, or even what the plans were for the RD, that most of the guests didn't get the heads up to bring cash for the bar.
I guess the thing that I don't understand is receptions that start real late and end real early. Our reception started at 5, dinner at 6:30pm, and dancing until midnight. If I wasn't going to have dinner until 8:30pm (ridiculously late in my book), and the reception is over by 10:30pm - was there even any time for dancing? If I wasn't planning on having a lot of dancing at the reception, I would have saved my money and did a Friday or Sunday wedding!
Just cheese and hummus then dinner was served at 8:30? I would have been eating the centerpiece! And Samantha has a good point, with dinner at 8:30 was there any time for dancing?
I can't complain about having a cash bar because after cocktail hour, that's what we had. However, we did pay for open soda which was something I felt strongly about. $4 for a soda is crazy. And I hate being seperated from H when one of us is in a wedding. It's definitely a lot less fun.
At least you got to sit with the other wives and gripe about being excluded!
Yes, and I was starving!! I was also drinking as much as I could during cocktail hour since i really didn't want to pay for drinks so I could have used something to soak up some of the alcohol!
A very short time for dancing, maybe an hour after they did the father/daughter dance, cut the cake, and did the bouquet/garter toss.
I would have been fine with cash bar as long as I could get a non-alc drink for free since I feel like you should provide something (besides water) during dinner.
I was lucky to meet these woman who all felt the same way about everything so that helped.
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My first thought was dancing as well. And honestly how did they expect people to drink and "snack" and then eat so late? Makes no sense. And $4.00 for a coke is stupid I mean we paid for all the cokes up front and it was like $1.00 now granted I know all areas are different BUT that's a big difference. And something other than water should have been offered even if it was tea or punch.
Glad you found other ladies to hang out with and that you made new friends. Sorry the bride was stupid but at least it's over now.
I am thrilled that this wedding is now over and done with. H is happy too and we both are really excited that we don't have any weddings to attend in the near future (we don't know anyone who's engaged anymore!)
Missing Our July Sparkler
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BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
Besides not being invited to the RD, I'm not a fan of head tables. In fact, I hate them! We are going to a wedding this weekend H is in and I'm a little nervous there will be a head table since I won't know anyone else there. I can make friends with anyone, but I think you have a better time sitting with your signifigant other! I never understood why you'd want to put people through that. I put my foot down at our wedding when H wanted a head table. Glad it's over and you made some new friends!!
Regional differences are funny sometimes...
I've never been to a wedding with an open bar, or credit to pay for it.. it's always cash. Now granted, usually non alcoholic beverages are free, and $4.00 for a sprite is absurd, but, i find it mildly amusing when people are weirded out by a cash bar.
I've also never been to a wedding where the BM's/GM's escorts were seated at the head table... so again.. nothing to weird for me there...
however....the erything else about this wedding is weird as heck to me! lol I can't believe they didn't feed you untill 8:30.. and then reception ended at 10:30... we fed people at like 6:30.. and they closed the hall down at 2.I also can't get over you guys not being invited to the RD. Crazy... ah well.. you went.. and don't have to do it again! Glad you made some new friends though!
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