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FFFC/AW/Vent
Re: FFFC/AW/Vent
I can't poop. I'm going insane. This is despite consuming loads of fiber, a stool softener daily, drinking lots of water, and exercising 3 days a week. My body hates me.
I've been requesting H wake me up on Saturday mornings with my toothpaste and toothbrush in my room. Morning sex is my thing! He likes evening sex and I'm never in the mood then. So we do it my way, sans morning breath. It's great. I guess that's sort of a flame/AW combination?
Also, I ate at Nunu's yesterday with my mom. We split a hashwa plate, falafel, hummus and tabouli. I don't get the hype. The hashwa was bland and tasted like Christmas with the over abundance of cinnamon, the falafel was not bad I guess, the hummus was really good, and the tabouli tasted like I was eating a head of parsley there was so much of it. One of my friends in high school was Lebanese and I ate with her all the time and had great food. Maybe I just ordered the wrong thing. I would vent about food.
Maybe I should have started a randoms thread instead. Poop, sex and food in one post is just too much.
LOL!!
Boymom--Try Miralax.
Mine: I feel like I would be an awesome SAHM with more money, a PT nanny, and a housekeeper. In real life, I work PT two days a week and SAH the other days. I feel like I'm subpar at both.
I am SOOO excited! About three weeks ago, I mentioned to DH that I wanted to go to Napa. He isn't a huge wine drinker but some couples friends of ours suggested we all take a trip during Crush season in 2013 (September/October). We haven't really talked about it since...but then DH emailed me today to tell me he booked our room!! He decided regardless of our friends going or not, he thinks it would be fun and given that rooms book a year in advance, he wanted to make sure we had a reservation. We arrive in Napa on September 17, 2013. Yes, twenty thirteen. Woot woot!
Vent/FFFC:
I am in the "I just don't give a f---" stage with my job right now. Everyone here is manipulative and just awful. They also don't want to take accountablity for their work and find it easier to blame the accounting department.
I also pissed off someone in one of the other departments a few weeks ago and now she doesn't directly acknowledge me. She sends the other person in her department to talk to me. I think it's funny that someone got so butt hurt over me trying to tell her why we can't accept an purchase order from a customer that isn't signed. I might have also attached an email to said purchase order and just left it on her desk.
FFFC- I'm annoyed with myself. I've become that mom. The mom who only posts FB status updates that talk about her kid. I don't do it often, but every status update or picture for the last 3 weeks has been baby related. That's obnoxious.
Vent- I'm pretty much pissed off at all but two of my "friends". No one has came to see my baby. It'll be a month on Tuesday.
That's awesome! I'm jealous! And I wish my DH knew how to plan vacations.
We have no AC, my phone just quit charging, I have a cold, AF is visiting and I have been majorly struggling with anxiety issues lately. I am probably a peach to be around this week.
I haven't worn a bra in a couple of weeks, and I am strongly considering giving it up completely.
I'm super stoked that I'm one of those "friends" you aren't p!ssed at cause I TOTALLY came to see your more-precious-than-words baby.
And BoyMom... STOP taking fiber. Trust me, my body hates me way more and has hated me since I was like 10 years old. There is such a thing as getting TOO much fiber... this will stop you up COMPLETELY. Step away from the fiber.
Just take the minimum daily dose for stool softeners, keep the water, keep the exercise... if you aren't doing coffee, strike cheese and processed food from your diet for a while and eat foods that are high in fiber/water content. No, no, no to fiber pills and powders.
Ugh, I know what you mean. I swore I wouldn't talk about DS as much as I do, or post as many pictures. But all my mom friends and family do love seeing him on facebook
my other friends may get a bit annoyed, though.
Do your friends have kids? I found that my friends without kiddos had a hard time relating to the new mom/new baby stage those first few weeks. I found it really isolating, which I wasn't expecting, so I know I probably wasn't the best friend to new moms before I had DS. It was interesting, for sure, to see who came by the most and brought us food. I was surprised by some people I expected to be more involved, and then by others who I didn't think would help as much as they did.
Anyway, all that to say I can relate to what you're feeling/going through and I'm sorry you're dealing with it.
I'm the last to have a baby. Most of my friends have multiple kids, who I've always gone to visit when they are born. I've been the only childless one and I've gone to every baby shower, every hospital, every birthday party. I just expected the same in return. At least a phone call or text message acknowledging that I had a baby. A "like" on Facebook doesn't cut it if you are my friend in my eyes. Like Boymom said, this is a big life event and I would appreciate the support. This has totally been an eye opener in regards to who my true friends are and how amazing they really are.
No, JLimberg, I'm definitely not pissed at you! Not only did you come visit, but you took some amazing pictures! I love them all!
You know, I really appreciate the space, too, because we had issues with family overstaying their welcome at our house during visits (ahem, in-laws). But I agree with the fact that it's a major life event like getting married, buying a home, adopting a child, etc., that is very nice to have recognized by others.
And actually, there were two friends in particular that yes, would have been visiting me otherwise. That's why their absence during that time was surprising. I had a rough time pp, and needed the support from friends (and not so much from intrusive family.) I didn't lose friendships over it by any means, but it was interesting how it all played out. Just not what I expected.
I agree BobKat!
Our second baby is 2.5 weeks old now and I am disappointed in how few friends and family have visited us at home or in the hospital. Given, we did move 3 weeks ago but our "new house" is seriously less than 10 mins away from our old home.
FFFC - I wish I would have agreed to a shower for DS. I was overwhelmed with the generosity demonstrated with our DD but I have been invited to 3 showers in the next 4 weeks for 2nd and 3rd babies. I now feel excluded and feel like I did it to myself. Honestly, there are very few things we still "need" and I do not feel like I need anyone to buy said things for us. I think I just want friends and family to ooh and ahhh over him.
Congrats on your new baby!!
I am pretty sure my one friend that has had a baby (she is a year now) was very disappointed that none of us visited her in the hospital. I am pretty baby stupid and just wasn't sure if she wanted privacy or what. We visited the baby when she was a week old. She never called or text to say "Hey, woman! I am feeling great today, still in the hospital, stop by with mcdonald's please" - I would have done it. We were never technically invited and I guess I was waiting on an invite - I did not in anyway want to invade her privacy or space and I felt odd saying to her "We are coming over today" which is what I ultimately did because, damn, we wanted to see that baby!!
Send me an email, woman, and tell me more about this. I swear, there are so many butt hurt people that walk around that place. It is ridiculous. She KNOWS the rules, I am not sure why she thinks she can continue to pull crap that doesn't follow company policy!
I agree. That seems a little silly to me. I mean, your life has changed in a huge way and you have a new little baby - who cares who does what? Just focus on your own stuff and don't keep tabs on other people. You'll be much happier that way anyway.
I also agree. More and more I am noticing that people that are going through life changes - engagements, babies, etc are expecting their friend's lives to be all about them and their life changes. I have a life, I have a career, my life does not stop because someone has gotten engaged or has had a baby. Focus on YOU and not what other people are or are not doing.
I'm not a bad friend I promise! I'm totally sad that we haven't been there to visit yet!
What do you mean that's the wrong side? Tastes great to me!