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Need positivity
I' going to be a debbie-downer here...
I'm having trouble making friends. I never was a popular girl or a girly-girl. My girlfriends from college, which were more like my sisters, still aren't talking to me since I lost it in June (I don't really want to talk about it). The girls I would occasionally hang out with after work now all work the day shift. I work the evening shift. I've tried meet-up and other sites like that but nothing works out. I feel like a depressed loser. I just sit at home on my days off waiting for my husband to come home, which usually isn't until 8 pm.
All of this is driving me crazy. I'm even having dreams in which I am apologizing to my "sisters" and begging for their friendship. I know that I was wrong in most of what happened and I want to apologize for my behavior but they won't return my calls, texts, or even my friend-requests on Facebook (yes, I have been defriended). I don't want to appear like a stalker.
What do I do???
Re: Need positivity
re your days off with any regularity, or does your schedule change? If you have a regular schedule, where you have Tuesdays off for example, you could look into classes that might be offered. Art, cooking, dance, photography... Try activities that interest you, and you'll meet like-minded people, and already share at least that in common.
If your day off changes, maybe you could join a gym, and take advantage of different classes that are offered. Try volunteering...
Good luck, Amy. (((hug)))
I have a hard time making friends, too. I have very few friends, and we are mostly at different places in our lives and barely speak anymore. If it weren't for my DH, I would be lonely a LOT. Same is true for him, although it bothers him a lot less. Fortunately for us, we work the same shift so our down-time is the same. Any chance you can change your shift so you and your DH's schedules align, or at least your first shift friends?
I agree with Alicia - sounds like you need some fun new hobby or activity or sport to occupy your time! Even if it doesn't lead to lots of fast friends, I find that I'm much happier alone when I'm busy, and I usually do make 1 or 2 friends if I stick with something long enough. You could even consider a part time job.
Do you have any hobbies now? Or anything that interests you that you'd like to try? Maybe we can help with specific recs if we know what you like
(for example - I love horses and would volunteer at a barn and/or take riding lessons again, take a sewing class to get better at making clothes, join a scrapbooking club, maybe take a photography class. I do not consider myself religious, but was raised in a unitarian universalist congregation and attended a different congregation when I was away at college, and both came with a great, welcoming community of people despite not having a common belief.)
Thanks for your support and suggestions.
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