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Help! My kid boycotts sleep.
Little T started sttn at about 10 weeks. That pretty much stopped when we moved (he was just shy of 7 months). I figured it had to do with the new environment and being alone in his own room. Well, here we are 3.5 months later and I'm lucky if he has sttn 5 times. He wakes up 1-4 times a night. Sometimes he just wants his pacifier, other times he is screaming and crying and wants to be held. The hub says to just let him cry. Easy for him to say, he sleeps through everything. I on the other hand will wake up if he blinks. Also, I have a feeling this is part of the problem...he does not go to bed awake. Before we moved he did with no problems (he used to sleep in his pnp so maybe he felt more secure since it is smaller???) But now it is seriously a 3 hour process to put him to bed awake so I honeslty (and am embarressed to say) that I gave up. I guess I just want to know what has worked for you guys because I am at a point where I will try anything! (Sorry for the long paragraph...it's my phones fault)
Re: Help! My kid boycotts sleep.
You've been living in your new home for 3.5 months???? Sheesh that flew by.
I am sorry the little man is giving you a hard time now. Would a white noise machine and/or adjustment to room temp help?
I hope you find a solution that works. FWIW I will be back full time this weekend. I never sleep so feel free to call if you need a hand.
Ugh Nik I am so sorry.
At first I wasn't a big CIO person (and I'm still not 100%), but that's what worked for us. A started STTN at about 10 weeks as well, but we started CIO at nap time since she was (and still is) an awful napper. I put her down, rubbed her back, gave her a kiss, walked out and waited for it...she'd cry for a bit, I'd go in, rub back and shush...rinse repeat. I never let her get out of control or go more than 2mins crying. She got it after a few days. Same goes for evenings. She goes down awake 6/7 times and some nights I have to go in and comfort her and others she goes down just fine. It may take 10-15min, but she does it herself. Same goes for if she wakes up at night, I let her chit chat and get herself comfy again. I never talk to her if I have to go in either. Maybe you just need to start over with sleep training? Ugh. Is he reliant on the paci to sleep or go back to sleep? Oh and we also have the sleep sheep (white noise, heartbeat, sound machine). xoxo lady
It's time to sleep train! He knows you will come in and comfort him!
CIO is tough. Luckily when we started it, I was at work and DH took control. The first night he cried 20 min. He slept almost 13 hours straight. I did the same for his naps the following day and so on.... It works
You don't have to be the person who puts her kid to bed and doesn't return until morning. You and T come up with how long your willing to let him cry - 10 min, more, less. Go in comfort him, repeat. It's going to take some time but you both have to be on the same page. Maybe try on a weekend so that if your getting up a bunch your not a zombie for work.
Lots of luck!!!!!
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I did CIO, I had to. At 14 months, being nursed to sleep, sleeping in my bed and waking several times a night, I was DONE. It sucked, but they WILL fall asleep and learn to fall asleep on their own. Each night the crying will get less and less and before you know it there is no crying at all. For about a year he gave me an FU cry but was done by the time I got downstairs. Now, I have an angel sleeper. Goes right in, wide awake with a kiss and a hug and a big "Nite nite Momma" and he sleeps 12 hours straight.
I followed the Ferber method bc the going in to soothe them thing helped ME handle it better. 3, 5, 7, 10, 15 then every 20 minutes. He has a tent on his crib so I couldnt touch him, but Id go in say go nite nite, lay down, I love you. I had to re-do it every so often, especially with teething throwing everything off and I realized that the going in started to make things worse for him, and he'd get more upset. When I didnt go in at all, he cried less and settled down quicker.
I found it helpful to have a white noise machine, a star turtle (he likes to doze out looking at them) and a video monitor so I could see him. If he was laying down, I knew he'd be out soon. If he was standing and jumping, it was a rough time. But again, it didnt take longer than a week for it to stop completely. You just have to do refreshers here and there (teething, sickness, vacation, etc.).
GL, I know how frsutrating it is. Just be strong. You are helping everyone by letting him learn to fall asleep on his own.
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ITA with Kendra. I'm new at all this stuff and I have no clue about 99% of things when it comes to kids, but I know Ferber works as well as CIO. You can do this lady. xoxoxoxo
We did Ferber, and J was STTN by night 2
He does have relapses, but I think it has to do with teething. I haven't referberized- after a couple of nights of drama he picksup sttn again. But, he's beign a scutch more regularly and we may need to sleep train again.
When he gets off track overnight, become very militant about his naps. If naps don't happen, it's a spriraling disaster
I'm sorry you're going through this. Good luck!