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If you were forcibly raped...
And got KU, would you get an abortion?
Re: If you were forcibly raped...
I'm sure this post will be a touchy one, but I'll start.
I don't know. It would be a hard conversation with Kevin, but that option would be on the table. There's so much related to the trauma of that kind of thing that I don't think I could predict how I'd feel.
I am not sure what I do either. As a person that has never been raped or KU, I think it is easy to say - oh hells yes, I would be at the abortion clinic ASAP - I wouldn't want that reminder of the period of my life to be with me forever and ever and EVER.
At the same time, it is a baby and not the baby's fault but....
I throw no side eyes either way.
I had a cousin that this happened to while she was in college. She ended up giving the baby up for adpotion. I could not imagine the pain she has gone through.
For me personally, I'm really not sure what I would do. That would be a conservation that DH and I have and I know it would be a difficult one.
I get not wanting an abortion and would admire the woman that could go through with an adoption. I personally wouldn't be able to go through the emotional and physical trauma of a rape, and then have to endure an additional 9 months of emotional trauma carrying a baby (that I did not want, with someone that is a monster)...and be punished even more by feeling horrible about giving away a part of myself to another person and praying that baby never found out the circumstances under which he/she was conceived.
This is also why I think people that are 100% pro-life, no matter the circumstance, are a little cracked.
Well, obviously, the article in the post I started below got me to thinking about this. Sadly, my first thought when I read the article was "IF the 14 year was forcibly raped, what kind of parent would allow that poor little girl to carry that child to term and then PARENT it?" In the article they go on and on about what a monster the rapist is yet...they are looking into his eyes every.single.day. I could not do that to my 14 year old little girl if the child was conceived under traumatic events. A 14 year old being pregnant is one thing but then for it to be under those circumstances...I can't help but shake my head at those parents. That is tragic.
The first thing I would do is get emergency contraception at the hospital in hopes it wouldn't be an issue, but, yes, I'd have an abortion if I became pregnant.
I'm still not certain I want a child. I mean, I could sort of imagine having DH's baby, but definitely not anyone else's.
I'm pretty sure I also couldn't get on board for forcing my daughter to have an abortion either, even if I thought it was a good idea. There's no way to win here.
This.
I would first get emergency contraception. However, I don't think I would have an abortion if that failed. I can't say with 100% certainty, because I've never been in that situation. I just don't think I could go through with an abortion. I have no clue how I would handle the pregnancy and subsequent child. That's just horrible to think about.
This situation is one of the reasons I'm pro-choice. I wouldn't get an abortion, but I would not make that decision for others.
I agree with all of this. I don't think I would be able to go through a pregnancy that had been caused by a rape. Pregnancy can be rough enough emotionally without it being a constant reminder of the worst moments of your life.