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if you could choose the sex of your baby, would you?
i heard on the radio that there are a couple places (NYC & LA) where there are doctors that can guarantee (with 99.9% accuracy) the sex of your baby. there are countries that actually have laws against this sort of thing, and apparently there are people coming from these other countries to have this done. they didn't go into any details about how, and i haven't looked into it, but i was just curious what y'alls reaction to this is.
even if it was covered 100% by my insurance, i can't imagine doing this. i can see both sides though, i can't imagine that it's much different than IVF or other procedures to help people create babies that they can't make when left to their own devices. i don't know, i just thought it was crazy.
here's a link to an old article i found about it: http://www.cbsnews.com/2100-500194_162-528404.html
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toothpastechica: i don't disagree with you, but i don't think they're manipulating the DNA, they're just separating the boy sperm from the girl sperm.... not that it makes it any better..
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IF there were no negative ramifications and we had whatever obscene amount of money I'm sure this costs just sitting around, I might consider it for a second child so we'd have one of each. However, this is not the case, so no, I wouldn't risk it or waste the money.
H and I actually joke that if we had the power to decide the traits of our children we'd waste them on stupid stuff like my blue eyes and H's dark hair instead of making the kid a super genius or amazing athlete.
I'm not sure about this. I mean I guess if you are already doing an IVF type procedure then go ahead but if not then let nature take it's course. H and I want a girl first because we both had older brothers and are now suffering from that. But at the same time as long as the baby comes out healthy we really don't care. Plus with H's family mostly boys and 1 girl I feel like if we get a girl first then the chances of having a boy second are pretty great.
I really don't know how I feel about it. I can see all points with it though. I don't think it is something we will ever do or would ever consider doing.
Yeah, neither am I! I want it to be a surprise but I don't think I can do it! And I don't want to hear the complaining about gender neutral baby items.
I always thought that I'd want to know the sex of our baby before the birth, but I heard a friend of mine say that waiting until the birth to find out the sex of the baby is the only real surprise we get in life. (or something like that, I can't remember her exact words). That actually made me consider waiting to find out... we'll see how I feel when the time comes :-P
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This is what I was thinking. It's like real life GATTACA!
Seriously though, I have the (probably unpopular) opinion that if you need IVF, maybe it's a sign you aren't meant to have kids in the first place. H and I are on the fence about having kids, but if I wasn't able to conceive naturally I'd take the hint. So I kind of feel the same way about this kind of stuff.
However, if it was proven safe over many years, became commonplace, and was cheap (or I was rich), I'd have no qualms against it for a 2nd child so that you could have one of each. It drives me insane when people say they are waiting to find out the sex of the baby until the birth (mainly because I am a huge planner and I know I would not be able to wait!) - to me it's a surprise no matter what, it's just a matter if you want to be surprised at the ultrasound or in the delivery room. Or in this case, when you check the box!
I really hate to be this person, but I find this incredibly offensive. My parents struggled to conceive for 10 years to have me and were finally successful after IVF treatments. They wanted a child more than anything and they are amazing parents. There are so many people that can't conceive naturally but want more than anything to be a parent. What about loser drug addicts who do ridiculous, irresponsible things like getting pregnant five times by five different men? Just because they're naturally fertile, they are "meant" to have children?
Anyway, I think it's a bit silly to choose the sex of your baby, but I can also understand people having the desire to have a specific sex. I read an article about a woman who had four boys and desperately wanted a girl, so she went through with this treatment and had a daughter. I personally don't think I would do it though.
If you could choose the sex of your baby, would you?
In a perfect world where no DNA, procedures and all that other stuff would be messed with and I could just go, "Hello God (or higher power whoever) can you please bless me with a boy as my first child?", Then yes I would choose the sex of my baby!
But in reality, if we could seriously choose, I wouldnt. I would just be blessed enough to actually get pregnant naturally, so I wouldn?t push it by being greedy and wanting to choose the sex
I have a feeling me and my H are going to have a hard time conceiving. So if I can get pregnant period, I just want a healthy baby 
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While it is certainly appealing, in the end, I doubt I would go through with it. I think it is messing with nature a little too much.
Sorry you feel that way, I didn't mean to imply that not being able to conceive to mean that I thought anyone who couldn't would be a bad parent. I just meant I'd take it as a sign that I wasn't mean to naturally have children, but there are other ways to become parents. It just seems wasteful to me that so much money and medical resources get spent on IVF when there are babies and children out there that need a family to adopt and take care of them....like the ones with drug addicted mothers. I'm not saying adoption is easy or cheap but it's hard for me to get past all the unwanted children already in the world when reading about the lengths some people will go to to have a baby naturally. Like I said before I'm aware that this probably isn't the popular prevailing opinion, but it's how I feel.
I know what you mean about the adoption. It's not that black and white though. My parents were on an adoption waiting list for five years and were told there was still a long wait when they decided to remove themselves from it after I was born. FWIW, my parents didn't pay for IVF because at the time the province we live in was offering free treatments to parents struggling to conceive because the birth rate was so low.
Because you're on the fence about having kids, you might look at it a different way than someone who has wanted to carry their own child and become a mother their whole lives. I'm not the type of person to get all butthurt by what I read on the internet, but something about the way you worded your post really rubbed me the wrong way. That being said, different opinions are what make the world such an interesting place and I appreciate learning about what other people think
Adoption is cheap if you are willing to take a child whose been in foster care who isnt a baby. But easy it is not. I am on the same train of thought though, that I find it strange that as a culture we are so obsessed with having babies that are born of us that we neglect to remember there are other ways to become parents. and MANY MANY children worldwide that would love a permenent family.
I have strugged with the idea of even getting pregnant, and this might sound wierd, but most of the time I hope I can't, because Adopting is a priority to me, and its H that wants a "baby of his own DNA", so we we have compromised to say we will try, but if we dont get preg we will start looking into adoption, and even after our first child we will only consider adoption or fostering.
I honestly wonder how much some of the reproductive treatments do play into the rise of genetic deseasies or weaknesses that are becoming more commonplace. Not saying anything bad about people who choose that route, but I would never choose it for myself, and I am concerned about the larger impacts on humanity that are not yet known/proven.
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