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Struggling (rant)
My husband and I have been passively trying for a baby for the last year and a half at just over a year I was checked and discovered I have pcos and they put me on medication. Since then I have improved slightly (July and August I was finally able to have periods without medication) this was a big accomplishment and my mom and husband husband know about it. So far for September I have not had a period and have been feeling a bit sick and have been peeing more often than usual. Not much and I have had it all before, I got used to putting the possibility out of my mind of maybe being pregnant. Well the past couple of weeks mom and husband have noticed every little detail and have made it known that they think this could be it. This is driving me crazy. I want to believe it but I'm scared to mom finally convinced me to take a test and lo and behold its negative yet again. I tell them that to make them shut up but they won't they keep pushing. I know they mean well but everyone else has told me that it will happen when I'm not expecting it. How can I not expect it when they won't stop?
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Re: Struggling (rant)
really?! your mom notices thatyou pee more than normal? I could see DH noticing but your MOM!?
i think there's more going on here.
and don't let her 'convince' you do to anything!! you want her to stop-then stop giving in and stop talking about it and stop anything having to do iwth it.
OK - I didn't have PCOS but DH and I tried for just shy of 2 years before we got pregnant. We were quite literally smack dab in the middle of infertility testing when we found out we were pregnant on our own. Could have knocked me over with a feather! It is tough to have yet another month go by and not get pregnant. I totally get that because I've been there 20 times myself.
However, if you're having symptoms of being pregnant (I felt like I couldn't get enough sleep among other things), give it another week and try to test again. My first round of testing was negative but my second test - a week later - was positive. I'm not saying that you ARE pregnant, but don't rule it out yet either.
As far as your Mom goes, if she's being a butt-in-skie, you need to tell her to back off. I have no doubt that it is coming from a good place and that she's excited for you to be parents someday but if she's getting overbearing, you need to be the one to tell her to back off. Really, it isn't anyone's business but yours and your DH's how your cycles are going. Ok, and maybe your doc's. *grin*
If you are old enough to be trying to have a baby, you're old enough to be able to tell your Mom that you're a grown woman now and as much as you are excited to share the joy of motherhood with her when the time comes, right now you just need a little space.
Oh goodness. I am so sorry you have pcos. Besy of luck to you on your jouny to have a beautiful baby.
If you have not had a period for 60 days you HAVE to call your doctor. If you really want you could call your doctor now. Something is up. You need to keep peeing on a stick occasionally until you get your period. Maybe the one you used was faulty/ it was to early to tell/ not sensitive enough. The tests with pink dye are best. Don't use the blue dye ones. Also you could be having an unusually long cycle.
As of them hounding you that you are or may be preggers you just need to tell them firmly they need to stop. Have a sit down with your H and explain how it is making you feel. You know he is excited and hopeful but he isn't helping in that way. You need support and love not hounding. As for your mom tell her you will be holding off on ttc. Don't discuss it any more with her.
while I get that your mother needs to step out and not discuss these things with you IF YOU DONT WANT IT...I have to wonder how she knows all of the signs?
At the very least, you are spending way too much time together. There is no way anyone should know how much you pee or eat or how tired you are on a day to day basis, unless you are around them EVERY DAY, ALL DAY.
At the most, you are telling them too much. And again, no one needs to be told about your bodily functions unless they directly affect them and in the case of procreation, that is your husband.
Stop talking to them about it and they wont bother you.
Oh Sweetie! I know exactly what you are going through! I had no idea I had PCOS! I have struggled with it for years! I am not sure how old you are, but I just turned 40. ICK! I was diagnosed 7 years ago! Imagine that! I have had it my entire life! I got pregnant with my son after I graduated from high school by pure luck. I think it had something to do with a tremendous amount of weight loss! All, I can tell you is, keep eating right, exercise, track your ovulation schedule. Tell your mother that you and hubby have put off the baby making fo a period of time. (even though you havent!) That will get the pressure off of you!
PCOS is such a weird condition to have! After I had my son, my periods skipped. so I would get put on the pill...(with a pg test to just make sure I wasn't!) then I would go for a period of time with a regular cycle. then they would stop. The gyno would take me off. They would start up! then this one year, I remember, my period wouldn't stop! I bleed for an entire month, i was getting so enimic from it! I couldn't work! Once I got married, I went to a specialist, she asked me a few questions. I answered them. She said you have PCOS! She didn't even touch me! So, I have been on metformin eversince! I haven't gotten PG! I am divorced now. Not really interested, gave up on the idea of having a baby. My son is 21 years old.
But I know what you are going through! another couple that met and married the sametime my husband and I did. were popping out babies like nothing! We stopped socializing with them! I couldn't handle it! I was tired of the when are you guys going to have one? Sorry it is so long, hope it helps...your not in the same boat!