Buying A Home
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When you found it, did you "know?"
I apologize if this has been asked before, this is my first time posting here (though I've lurked some!) When you found the house that was the one, did you know it right away? I keep waiting for that feeling, like I could see us living there and I'm afraid we're passing on good houses because we don't have some indefinable "gut feeling." Thoughts?
Re: When you found it, did you "know?"
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We did. The first time we walked through, we loved it but were worried it was too much house for us. We spent a lot of time talking about it and decided to do a second walk-through. That's when we decided for sure.
I distinctly remember standing in the kitchen while H and the realtor were talking about something and thinking, "I can so picture myself standing here making dinner or entertaining guests or watching our puppy play in the backyard." That moment pretty much decided it for me.
Contract #1- I think we were feeling defeated by the market and ready to settle. I felt minor "love" and Mr. LK just wanted to make me happy. We went under contract but pulled out based on inspection results.
Contract #2- Instant love for both of us. It was an amazing house and clearly "the one" we wanted to live in. Contract failed due to short sale complications.
Contract #3- Instant love again. Oodles of space, gorgeous farm views. So much potential. Contract failed due to short sale complications.
Contract #4- I refused to feel anything. After 3 failures, I just couldn't let myself love anything. But we were hanging out with friends later the same day, and I kept talking about the house. I couldn't stop, and Mr. Lk was right there with me. Our friends were like "It's your house. You are clearly in love with it. Go buy it." So we did. We went back for a second showing two days later, offered on it, and closed about a month later.
So yeah, hang in there until you find a house that you both love. There are lots of them out there.
This sounds like what DH and I are going through.
The first house we looked at was love at first sight- it was huge and beautiful, with a greenhouse in the backyard and a wrap-around porch on both levels (was two-story). But after an inspection, we realized it would need too much work.
Second house was, again, love at first sight. It needed a few tiny fixes (the ENTIRE house was wall-to-wall pepto bismal pink carpet and tile and there was wallpaper everywhere!). The day before we put an offer on it, the homeowner accepted a different offer, so it was sold.
Third house (the one we are hoping for right now) is amazing. But we are both trying not to get our hopes up again.. If it works out, great, if not, we will just have to start all over again... Hopefully that won't happen though- it's perfect!!
I'll chime in and be different and say that I definitely didn't "know." Then again, I never had that feeling about a wedding dress either, which many people do. We saw a total of about 30 houses in two different areas before picking one.
I really think that whether or not you "know" depends a lot on your personality. I tend to be a very cautious, carefully considerate person and don't tend to react with my gut on virtually anything (at least not in the positive!).
When we were hunting, we narrowed it down to two houses that we "liked" and considered the pros and cons of both. When we realized that they pretty much came down equally (both with features and monetarily), I tried to envision which house I could see us spending holidays like Christmas in and one of them came out head and shoulders above the other. We moved in almost eight weeks ago and it's felt like home pretty much since day 1.
At the end of the day, it's important that you're happy with your decision, but I wouldn't stress it if you just don't have "that" feeling about it.
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