May 2012 Weddings
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Monday Madness
Here's an old favorite. Someone posts a word and we all discuss it!
Re: Monday Madness
I'll start my own madness. Now that I'm living with the ILs, I'm starting to realize how inconsiderate and self-centered my MIL is. She was on the radio again yesterday (seriously, we need to keep her from going on the radio anymore). The first time she was talking about the family stand they own at the public market. My FIL owns and runs the stand by himself. The first time she was on the radio, she never once mentioned him, only talking about what she does at the stand, as if all the food appears by itself and the only thing they do is sell it. I gave her the feedback that she should give her husband more credit for what he does at the stand. The 2nd time she was on the radio, she mentioned his name, but claimed to run the stand as owner by herself- EXCUSE ME?! In the 60+ years they have had that stand, not ONCE was she ever in charge. "WE order the meats fresh, WE prepare them at a local offsite location, WE do this, WE do that." No you don't, FIL does that, not you, not we.
Then she made a list of all the workers at the stand of Hungarian descent from the past 60 years, brought the list to her husband to review and see if she missed anyone. She remembered people that worked single weekends, people that were technically Serbian and not Hungarian, she remembered to list herself and my H, but DIDN'T EFFING LIST FIL. He was upset, and they did get into a fight last night. What is wrong with you MIL?!
Wow, what a firey topic for a Monday Morning =]
I won't even get started on MIL...the rest of the in-laws are pretty cool. It's a long story!
I got pretty lucky in the in-laws department. But I do complain about a couple things. First off, my mother in law is amazing. She is the type of mother I Hope to be when I have a kid. My in-laws are still married and that is the complete opposite of what I grew up with. Father in law is great too. He helps my husband with everything and anything if we need it.
My complaints are that sometimes they treat my husband like he is 5 and not 29. Like making sure he did this and that, and I'm like Hello we're married adults. We're not 5 years old. We have common sense. Me more so than the hubby LOL but that?s another topic.
I've been on my own since I was 17 and I'm VERY independent. Hubby stayed home till he was 25 (which was great because he saved up enough $$ for a really good down payment for his house) which means he's only been out on his own for four years compared to my 9 years. So I get SUPER irritated when they question our decisions on stuff. He always tells them everything we're doing (like right now we just put our house on the market) and he has to tell them all the details of the numbers and who our realtor is and I feel like they are too nosy sometimes.
That was more like a vent. I should stop complaining because my in laws really are wonderful people and I'm SO lucky.
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This but the opposite. H is an only child, and because his family is so close knit and so loving I kind of get overwhelmed when I am around them too much. I on the otherhand am one of three and my parents are loving, but not that 'touchy feely' or as demanding of our time as my inlaws. I think my MIL sees us getting married as literally obtaining a daughter and tries to treat me as such and it does kind of get on my nerves sometimes.
Both my MIL and FIL also have this need to always be right (I always wonder how they are still married..but kudos to them!)...and I have a 'strong personality', so we clash quite a bit and I can't talk about work or my feild of work with them because they just don't get why I would want to help people "who didnt work as hard as they did"...and no amount of explaining can convince them otherwise.
So all in all I think I am pretty lucky....and it could be a lot worse, so I am thankful for only having minor issues with them.
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I love my in-laws. FIL drinks a little too much but he has been that way his whole life and it's not like he's inappropriate towards me so it doesn't bother me that much. MIL had her moments but I think it was more the illness than truely her but we miss her more every day.
BIL on the other hand I could do without. Him and his wife are just dumb*sses and I'm perfectly okay with them not being in our life. H says he will still include them but I doubt they will ever do anything.
My IL's are great, although they live about 300 miles away, therefore we only see them a few times a year which is somewhat of a blessing.
They mostly confuse me in the sense that MIL and FIL have this persona (as does SIL) that their family is super close, yet when we were living about an hour from MIL and FIL if they drove by our apartment on the way to another town (which happened from time to time) they couldn't be bothered to stop and visit. Also SIL was supposed to come visit us at least 4 times in the last few months, but flaked without an explanation, MIL and FIL have done this as well. They are just so wishy washy with planning visits... if H and I say we are coming for the weekend, we are coming for the weekend.
Also they would complain we don't visit enough or want us to come visit them and when we would they would act like we should be "out living our lives" and didn't seem all that excited to see us. They also always seem to have other things planned when we do visit. We barely see them when we do visit because we stay at MIL's mother's house because there isn't a place for us to stay at their house. They have SIL's old room available, and they keep talking about putting in a queen size bed so we could stay there, but they have yet to do that... H is hurt about this because he feels if they really wanted us to stay at their house they would make it so we could, but since they don't he feels they don't give two craps about seeing us.
When we would visit my family they welcomed us with open arms and were so glad to see us. Of course my parents were happy I was "out living my life" however they still missed me and would like to see me from time to time.
Now FIL and MIL are all about us having kids and anytime H calls them and says guess what they assume I am pregnant. They also claim they will visit us more when we have kids... are we not important enough on our own to warrant a visit?
Of course they could be worse and compared to most I have hit the MIL and FIL jackpot, but like I said they live 300 miles away, I am sure my feelings would be different if we lived closer to them and saw them on a more regular basis.
I like my in-laws a lot. One of the reasons I love H is his close connection to his family. Don't get me wrong, they have their moments, but don't we all?
I didn't think MIL liked me very much until we got engaged, but H swears that's not the case. We still have some awkward moments of communication though.
I do love that after over 30 years of marriage and 3 kids the ILs still really love each other, like in the sickeningly cute way. My parents barely get along sometimes so it's really inspiring to me.
My MIL is beyond words. Refer to the lube incident a few weeks back.
Enough said.
MIL lives in France so we only see her once or twice a year. She's an artist/hippy and I love her and admire her free-spirit although she is the exact opposite of my traditional, conservative parents. Sometimes she's a little awkward and over-the-top.
FIL is a little grumpy but I can relate to him much more than I can MIL. He is similar to my parents. He lives in Florida, so we see him more than MIL, but still not that often.
BIL and his wife live in Maine, so we don't see them all that much either. Although, we talk to them all the time on the phone. DH and his brother are best friends and I love their relationship. I love BIL and SIL so much.
All in all, I'm super lucky with my in-laws. They're non-invasive and all very warm!
I also feel very lucky when it comes to the ILs.
I thought for sure FIL didn't like me at all.. he would barely talk to me, and no matter how many times H would tell me that he was just shy, I always felt like it was me. I mean, the three of us would go out to dinner and if H was in the restroom, there would be complete silence. Awkward. But then just after we were engaged, his parents came to visit, and we went to dinner with both sets of parents. FIL ordered a bottle of my favorite wine (H had told him what it was the night before) and I was probably way too touched by that, but it really meant a lot to me.
MIL is super sweet, and fun, and easy going. She and my mother get along great, too. I think the fact that she has two daughters of her own let her be a great MIL because she has them to pester, and me to just enjoy. She isn't overbearing at all. We bonded a few years ago, when we were at their house for Thanksgiving, and H wanted to run a 5k. When the race started, we walked a little down the course to find someplace to cheer him on, but we ended up stumbling upon a sample house in the development, and we spent the whole time checking out the house, instead haha. We saw him through an upper window, and raced down to be at the finish line when he got there. We never told him
SILs are also fantastic. I think at first they were a little iffy about me, because 3 months after we started dating, I went on their family vacation. ha. H was engaged before, and she pretty much left him at the altar, so the sisters are very protective of him. Once they got to know me, we've gotten along great, and last Xmas, H's younger sister and I had an inebriated bonding session
She told me how happy she was that he had found me, etc.. that also meant a lot to me!
The only thing that gets annoying is the frequency of their visits
H runs the family business (it's in CT with us) and they live in NC. Now that FIL is retired, he's up here all the time. (in fact, he's on his way back here now!) Last summer they stayed with us for almost 2 months. That was a little much!
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