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Bummer Christmas

I know I know, it's only October, but I am bummed and figured you girls could share in my pity party!

My little sister called me last night to tell me that my mom and dad decided to go visit them for Christmas.  Now, do not get me wrong, I love my sister with all my heart.  I am just so sad that they will all be DE for Christmas and H and I will be here in our hometown alone.  We live in SD along with my parents so I completely understand them wanting to go to DE and see my niece and nephew.  Totally get it.  Also, with having to fly for the wedding and my sister coming back home during September, I totally get that my parents feel they need to go to them this time.  Totally get it. 

Christmas is also my birthday and I resigned myself years ago that my birthday is just one of those days.  But now, that no one in my family will be here is kind of depressing.  I put on my happy voice and told my sister and my mom I am happy that they are all going to be together, but was tearing up inside.  I actually am happy and even encouraged my mom that they should go.  Her mother has been having a lot of health problems and it has caused an enormous amount of stress on my mom and dad that I am very glad they are getting out of town for a while and can hopefully just relax. 

It's really just me at my own pity party feel bad for myself.  I'll get over it, just felt like a vent was needed momentarily! 

**can you hear the violin music playing in the background?!

Re: Bummer Christmas

  • I feel your pain...christmas's for me have sucked for the past 5 years or so because until I got engaged I usually spend Christmas alone, my family would go up to the cabin to have christmas with my grandparents and extended family (and I can't blame them) but I was working retail and EVERY year had to work the day before or the day after christmas so I couldn't go.

    The first year I was dating H, he was super sweet and bought a fake tree and made apple cider and we had our own christmas before going to his parents later in the day. It was really special to me to start some of our own traditions that are not just my family or his families traditions but ours together.

    I know its not the same, but what about in the next month or so write out some of the traditions/customs that make christmas feel like christmas to you and figure out how you and your husband can use those and customs on your own and figure out some new traditions you would like to start as a 'new' family.

  • Long story - very short version my parent's haven't always been in my life until the past 7 years or so, so for those first 8 years H and I had all our Christmas' with just him and I unless we flew down to his family.  So it isn't like we haven't done this before, it's more that I finally got used to having my family during Christmas that now I'm selffish! 

    I'm sure I'll be fine in a couple of weeks or so the more he and I talk about it and think about what just he and I want to do together this year.  On the plus side... I should be able to keep the pounds off this year with mom and dad not here and mom not baking up the entire fleet of Christmas goodies! 

  • I sort of feel your pain as I'm pretty sure H & I will be alone for Thanksgiving, which is my favorite holiday as it's just about food and family.

     H works in retail and his store is opening even earlier on Black Friday so I'm just not sure we'll be able to make the trip. And he's a manager so it's not like he can go in late or anything. 

    I'm hoping this will allow us to start our own tradition as other people have mentioned, so maybe you and your H can do the same! 

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  • I am sorry :( Last year I spent xmas with H's family and while it was nice, it wasn't the same, there is nothing like spending the holidays with your family, but you and H will be together for your first xmas as husband and wife :)
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  • Last year my family was split up and we were barely speaking. My mom came to our house and I cooked for H's family. It was nice but super weird I've had Christmas the same way since I was 5 and we have had very little changes. This year I hope things are a little more like normal but MIL won't be there and she always went to my family's house for Christmas and Thanksgiving.
  • I'm sorry....what about if you and DH went along and spent Christmas with your family? Is that an option?
  • I completely understand. I can relate a little bit. My birthday is the 19th of December. Always feels like mine gets pushed a side with Christmas so close and it is even harder to plan a party or something when Christmas is a few days away. Maybe you and your husband can do something even more special this year for your birthday and Christmas. You don't have to worry about going to see family you guys can plan something on your own. 
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  • imageMsAmeera25:
    I'm sorry....what about if you and DH went along and spent Christmas with your family? Is that an option?

    I wish!  No, H is working Christmas and in fact is on-call, so it's entirely possible I'll be completely alone for Christmas.  Ok...so that made me even more bummed.  Hadn't even given the thought that he might actually get called.  Ah well, I've got my furbabies and Skype!

  • Awww i'm sorry. I hope he doesn't get called in. 
  • Not that it will make you feel better...but theres a good chance I'll be working christmas day if I get this job since its 24/7 and I'd be the new person....so you won't be the only one with a bummer christmas.
  • imagetoothpastechica:
    Not that it will make you feel better...but theres a good chance I'll be working christmas day if I get this job since its 24/7 and I'd be the new person....so you won't be the only one with a bummer christmas.

    I'll tell you what...if I lived in Canada, I'd come visit ya!  Although SD isn't too far....

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