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Part time or Full time?

My husband & I recently relocated to our "home" city (where we went to college - near our families) from out of state and were THRILLED when we both got great jobs. Mine, however, is part time, and because we could financially swing it (and it is a GREAT position), we figured that it would be a great role for me to have when, in a few years, we have kids and I can then be home part time with them.

However, my boss just notified me that he is interested in promoting me to a full time position that was recently vacated in the office. It's a GREAT career move (and would be good $$) but it defeats the purpose of being able to stay home part time with my (future) kids.

My question is: should I keep the PT role, or accept the promotion and worry about the work situation later on?

I realize that this may seem silly, but PT roles are hard to come by in my field and it is VERY important to me to be able to stay home (part time) with my kids.

ANY advice is appreciated! THANKS!

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Re: Part time or Full time?

  • This is an extremely personal call and depends on your situation. You may think your timeline is one way but nothing is definite until you make the decision and then get pregnant. If I were you, I'd take the full-time, be flattered, and save up for your child(ren) to come. You are very lucky in this climate to not only have one good job opportunity, but a potential upgrade. Good luck in your decision.
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  • I agree with PP - I'd take the FT position. You never know what can happen and since your not pregnant now, i'd take the opportunity.
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  • I think you're a damn fool for even thinking about passing up a FT position for this reason.

    You're not pregnant. You don't plan to be for awhile. What are you doing now with that extra 20 hours a week, sitting in your future nursery pretending to fold imaginary baby clothes? 

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    I agree with PP - I'd take the FT position. You never know what can happen and since your not pregnant now, i'd take the opportunity.

    same here!  who knows down the road when you are ready to have kids maybe you can drop back down to PT. But i wouldnt pass up this opportunity

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  • Totally personal call, and Ill play devil's advocate.  I was in the same position, had PT work (that I supplemented with an outside job teaching group fitness which I love).  Boss offered me FT which I took on b/c we are also trying to save up for kids in the near future.  For me it has not worked out....the amount of money I make vs the hours I work is not good at all.  In fact, I probably made more on the hourly wage.  My stress level has increased and Im going on several weeks in a row of 6 day work weeks...once you are that magical salaried employee the pay stays the same, regardless of how many hours you put in.  Im sure you situation is somewhat different but by me accepting the FT job they cut the PT position so it isnt even an option now for me to be PT.


    This is just me and my personal experience...and again do what is best for you.  Have a chat with husband.  You will make the right choice, regardless of what is posted here!  Good luck..

  • While I think it's a very personal decision that only you and your husband could make, as someone who works a very demanding job without the opportunity to be home with my kids as much as I'd like, I would stay in the PT position, especially if you can swing it financially. 

    Pesonally, I've always wanted to be more involved with my kids than with my job but it didn't work out that way for my family. I have a great career and make great money but I would jump at the chance to switch with my H and work a more flexible job.

    Again, I think this is a decision that only you can make. Good luck! 

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    I think you're a damn fool for even thinking about passing up a FT position for this reason.

    You're not pregnant. You don't plan to be for awhile. What are you doing now with that extra 20 hours a week, sitting in your future nursery pretending to fold imaginary baby clothes? 

     

    Ha! Good question! I've actually been nannying for really good extra $$ - but I'd obviously still be making much more with the FT role. Thanks for the input!

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  • Thanks for your input, everyone! My ultimate decision is to take it - if we were planning to have a baby now it would be different, but it probably will be a few years and by then who knows what will happen.

    Thanks again!
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  • I would do full time. If kids are in the future, whether near or far, your gonna want to save up money. This would be the perfect time to. Plus you could work full time the 9 months you are pregnant and save up even more money. You could deal with the baby time later when the time comes. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and still haven't decided whether I'm going back to work under my full time position or lowering to a part time. All in all, more money could be a better life for you DH and future LO. Good Luck!
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