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Extremely Frustrated...
I have been at my current job for a year and a few months now and have disliked it pretty much since starting it. I had a hard time getting hired after college and worked a few part time jobs while nannying for 3 years. So when I got this position and I jumped on it. What I dislike is the pay (I make practically nothing for the hours, effort, and time that is put in), the people I work with are all gossipers and backstabbers, I don't feel appreciated for my hardwork, and there is no life/work balance which is important to me being a newlywed. During our busy time of year, we're expected to be here sometimes from 8am until 11pm. It's crazy!
So I have been hardcore job searching all summer (our slower time) and have had no luck! I have gone on a few interviews and someone with more experience had always been hired over me. Within 2 months, it's going to start to get crazy again and I don't think I can mentally take it again. It was hard enough the first time while planning a wedding but this time we just bought a house and we're going to have house projects that I won't have time to be a part of.
I feel really trapped and I don't know what else to do other than continue job searching and hoping for the best. It's driving me crazy that I feel like I have no control. I have even started to apply for jobs that I'm very overqualified for (no need for a college degree, etc). H has suggested nannying again just so I can stay sane but I know that is not a smart career move and I remember how hard it was to find a "real" position while nannying.
I just don't know what to do! Has anyone been in a similar position before? How did you get out of it? I feel like I'm running out of options and it has started to mentally get to me. I feel terrible that I'm feeling this way because everything else in my life is amazing (amazing H & family and friends, etc.) and know there are others that are underemployed or not employed that would kill for a job in general. I just can't help feeling trapped. Any advice would be amazing!
Re: Extremely Frustrated...
Im curious what field you are in?
It does suck to hate your job, ive been there. Are you looking for jobs on your own or are you using a headhunter (depending on the field) ? For our financial position i would have to suck it up until i found something else. I dont know that it would be wise to step back into nannying since it seems you dont have much experience in your field to begin with. I would try and stick it out so that you gain the experience time wise for your resume.
Thanks for the advice! I work in sports at an affiliate for an NBA team so during the season it's super crazy.
I'm looking on my own and use any connections I have made while in my current position. How does a headhunter work? I have looked into job placement services in the past but they just put prospects in temp jobs during the hours I work now. I need something more permanent.
I agree that nannying would be a step back so I would prefer to stay away from that.
I graduated college in 2008 so I have over 4 years of professional experience (have been in some type of professional setting since graduating even if it was part time). Sticking it out for experience and financial reasons has been why I've stayed so long. It's just getting harder.
Oh ok, you have more time in experience than i had thought, thats a plus. I think the other part of the problem is that with this economy there are so many people that are highly qualified even over qualfied taking any job they can get just to have a job which makes it harder for us with less experience.
Im in accounting. In the business world alot of companies use a headhunter (recruiter) to help them find employees. The companies pay them, so for me to use a headhunter it doesnt cost me anything. I really dont know if all types of fields use them though.
Hopefully working through your contacts can help you find something. I hope it gets easier. Hating your job is beyond stressful especially when you are already anticipating the busy season
That's exactly what I'm seeing! With the economy still not the best people who are qualified for higher jobs are taking the jobs I'm qualified for so it's making me stuck.
I will definitely look into a headhunter. That's a really good idea and they might have an inside that I don't have.
It is very stressful hating my job and its stressing me out more knowing what is coming. I really appreciate your help!
Best of Luck!!!! i was in your position two years ago.
Another idea could be to look on Linkedin.com. You could create a profile and start networking!
Employers may even come to you!
I've done that! I've used it to get a hold of contacts at companies I've sent my resume to and I was asked to interview somewhere, too. The job was okay - it was just sitting at a desk all day and making sales calls so I didn't take it. I wish I would have now because it just would have gotten me out of my current job.
I've actually been in your exact position. Three years ago I was a few years out of college and was working at my first "real" job. I thought things that were going on there were OK because I hadn't worked in a professional environment before besides a few small internships.
It wasn't ok. People were mean and would yell and scream at other people in public, in meetings, and in front of others. If you made a mistake you were made to feel like you just had done a huge disservice to everyone around you and would be yelled at until you apologized or cried, whichever came first. Almost daily a collegue would be "hiding" in the downstairs bathrooms crying ad people made me feel an inch big. The bosses (and company owners) were involved in everyone's personal life. and when I mentioned in person to a coworker I had been out later hte night before for my bday and someone overheard me and told on the company president that i was a "loose canon, partying all night long" (this was NOT the case). Then, i kept my job and moved closer to be home, and that was the worst. I would rive 2 hrs to work and an 1 1/2 home in tears. My life was crumbling. No one wanted to hang out with me because I was always in a piss poor mood. My poor fiance at the time must have been like what am i getting myself into....
Anywya!! I found a new jobt hrough a Head hunter!! and they were my saviour. My job was actually temp-perm but i took it to get out of my current situation. It was the worst, and everyday since I have been SO happy i took the risk. There was a chance my job wasn't going to go perm, but i had to take the cahnce, and in the end it worked out for me.
i hope that this gives you the courage to do what you have to to get out of a bad situation. I just want to mention I was at my old hell hole for 4 years!! Don't be me!!!
Thank you so much for your story! My position can be almost that bad at times. I've cried at home because of not wanting to go to work and have been frustrated by so many factors over and over again.
I'm going to for sure look into a headhunter or career placement service asap. It sounds like there has been a lot of success with it and I didn't even think of trying that.