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Hit me with them
I need all of your tips on
1. Getting Nolan out of our bed
2. Night weaning
Last night when Nolan woke up around 12: 00 I brought him to bed to nurse. I put him back in his crib after he fell asleep and he immediately work up again. So after another 30 minutes of trying to get him back to sleep to no avail I brought him back to our bed where he snuggled in between us. We drifted off to sleep, but apparently Nolan didn't. He climbed over DH and fell off of the bed. He's fine--but I'm taking this as a sign that this arrangement is no longer working.
I'm lumping night weaning into this, because with DD once we night weaned she statrted sleeping through the night.
The other caveat is that he's in our room, so he can see us. We don't have another bedroom besides DD's.
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Re: Hit me with them
Well, I'd recommend putting your mattress on the floor - that's what we do. When they are mobile, it's not really safe to cosleep in a bed that's "adult" height until they are older and can get down easily/safely on their own.
If you want to night wean, I'd check out the book "Good Nights" by Jay Gordon.
I believe he has a gentle night weaning technique, that he recommends for children over the age of 1.
Ah, here it is: http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html
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This is my fear. We've tried a few different things, but it is also difficult for me to get DH's buy in. The second he cries DH says, " just give him the boob." Although after yesterday I think DH is ready.
I don't really want to co-sleep. And I never really wanted to, that just what had been working so we got enough sleep to function.
I did do Jay Gordon with DD when she was 14 months, but it seems like she was light years older (although at that age 3 months is a long time). After talking this morning I think this might be our plan moving forward tonight. it makes me anxious though, because I remember how awful those first few nights were.
Has anyone done Jay Gordon prior to 1 year?
Could you get some sort of folding screen so that Nolan can't see you from his bed?
I think Heather was about the same age when we started sending DH in to attend to her. He would try to settle her for 10-15 minutes. If she was still super mad or frantic after that, he would bring her to me and she'd nurse/ co-sleep. Probably 50-75% of the time he was able to settle her back in her crib in her room. Which was a dramatic improvement. We could have Ferberized, but we mostly just wanted to make sure that she wasn't nursing out of habit, but could still do so when she really needed the comfort.
So from 10 to 13 months she would nurse overnight only 1-2 times a week (I think) and the rest of the time she STTN. At 13.5 months her molars were done coming in, and she officially night-weaned and STTN full time.
I have no advice from my Todd experience. He wouldn't even start the night in his crib until he was 10 months old...
Nolan will start in his bed if I nurse him to sleep, or until recently he'd fall asleep on his own if he was in this seat in his crib. But once he wakes up he wants to nurse all night long.
A month and a half ago I thought this was a phase brought about by a developmental spurt or teething--but it hasn't gotten any better and those disruptions were always shorter than that before.
We had one night where I had an almost 6 hour stretch of sleep and it was glorious. I was an awesome mom the next day :-)
So while I'd prefer to night wean, I think I'd even be totally OK if he only got up once to nurse--but I'd say 50% of the nights he's getting up every hour to every 1 1/2 hours. Starting with when he goes to bed at 7:30/8ish.
I definitely want him in his crib for the duration of the night though--so I guess we'll have to tackle that first.