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errrrr-my coworker...
drives me INSANE.
I have never really used "hate" for an individual but I can use it for her.
She is constantly at my desk and going through it. we share project folders and all she has to do is put the purchase order from the client in it. Then I fill it up with everything else, purchase orders, special details, product info. then eventually it goes back to her to keep track of the order. But daily she comes and like scambles through my desk. Opening up desk drawers (including those that have NOTHING work related in them...ie: the have tissues and lotion and my purse).
I used ot have an office so I was used to privacy and being able to shut my door and concentrate. She constantly talks out loud about everything..the weather, her weekennd, her boyfriend, her son's attitude (he's 15), her ex husband, her ex boyfriend (shes has 2 husbands and 3 live in boyfriends in the past 10 years)
on top of it all, I am starting to feel liek "really this is the type of person I am employeed with". I have 6 years in my industry, my degree, a master's degree and I continually take professional courses at RISD. She is a high school grad with a bad RI accent and a horrible track record at positions. It makes me feel like I am either underemployed or my boss thinks this is the type of person that I am "good" with working with in a team atmosphere.
Any advice on getting her to shut up? I've tried the ignoring her. I even tried the "sorry, I missed that, I have been concentrating on this assignment" type thing to imply "i am not listening"...It doesn't work.
And just today I got snappy, she was looking for some reporst and starting rifling through my desk again (And i had my folders in a pile of the order i was working on them and she went and rearranged them all) and I said something like "i don't have your orders, and they certainly are not on my desk. if you ask me I can double check". but that didn't get through because she is walking over here right now....
Re: errrrr-my coworker...
Do you have the type of job where you need to answer phones a lot? If not, will your boss let you wear headphones and listen to music during the day to drown her out?
As far as the drawer thing... that would drive me mental. I second the locked drawer suggestion, especially for your purse. And I'd get some new divider or sorting system to go on top of your desk to organize all the folders, and stress to her that all paperwork that you share is to be stored in the new "system" so she'll never have to sort through drawers to find anything again. And then be direct and tell her not to go through your desk any time she tries it.
The throat clearing... no ideas on that front. There's a guy that works in my department that has had a chronic cough for months on end now. He won't see a doctor about it because it would cost him a copay (and he makes more than I do, so plenty of $$ to not have to stress over the $25).
I actually do put on music when my boss isn't in (which is frequently)
I should probably mention I work in a 4 person office and one person (the assistant) is part time...and my boss is here 50% of the time, so it;s usually this coworker and I. It's really irritating and I have used every passive aggressive tactic I can think of. So I guess being direct is the best way, I just feel mean to be liek "stop going through my desk".
I do tend to leave the folders in a pile so i can work on them and have some open. But there really isn't a need for her to access them, I simply think she either doesn't know her "job" or that she needs to look busy. Our boss is never here, and so technically when she is gone I am in charge. But I think becuase I am about 20 years younger than this woman etc, she doesn't take me seriously.
I don't even how ot nicely say I don't want to hear every detail of your life anymore, because it's depressing and annoying!!
She's the type of person that you walk in on a Friday and you are like "yay it's friday" in your head and you walk in and she is like "another MISERABLE DAY my weekend plans Suck and my life is horrid" kind of person (debbie downer).
Sorry just had to vent!!!!!!!
On a side note, I think I only have to put up with this for another 2-3 weeks, I think she's getting the ax