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I'm so irritated
And I realize this is totally a First World Problems vent but I need to get it out. I am ready to strangle my cleaning girl. She has been cleaning for me for about 2.5 years with no serious issues. She is young, she is flighty sometimes, and lately she just acts like a total crackhead. About a month ago I had to reschedule b/c one of the kids came down with something and we were home sick. So she's like "ok, I can clean thursday instead, do you mind if I drop by and pick up the money though because I really need to get gas". It really irritated me but I let it slide that one time and let her know I wouldn't do it again. One time I came home and my freezer was wide open...my whole stash of breastmilk was half thawed and I had to use it all up immediately which really ticked me off. And occasionally I can tell she does a rush job and has forgotten to clean some things, but I have let that go because when she does a good job (most of the time) I have no complaints.
Then yesterday I came home after she cleaned and basically it looked like she came in, cleaned for 15 minutes, took her money and left. (she should be there for 2.5-3 hours). The kids rooms were cleaned, two of the bathrooms were half-assed (floors, mirrors and sinks still dirty though, all she did was fold some towels) and that was IT. there were still cheerios on the kitchen floor from the kids breakfast. Oh-AND-she left two empty drinks in my house, lights were on, doors to storage areas in my basement were open (no reason she would need to go in there), my child's nightlight is missing.....its just so weird like she left in a hurry and ran out of there. So i texted her asking what happened at 6 pm last night. Still no response. I know she is going to come back with some cockamamie story about how she is in the hospital, or her cousin's girlfriends cat had to go the emergency vet or something, it is always some crazy story with her. I am not sure why I am writing this here, I think its obvious what I need to do, but OMG. I am just livid that she thought she could come in and barely touch anything and still take her money then not respond to me.
Re: I'm so irritated
Does she have her own key? If so, I would be changing the locks pronto!
I don't like confrontation, so I probably would have put up with quite a bit of the flighy non-sense you mention. However, it seems like it is a situation that is deteriorating and if she is involved with drugs you don't want her to have access to your house.
This sounds pretty sketchy. I'm non-confrontational too, but I'd let her go. And change the locks.
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Yeah - she needs to go ASAP. And I think changing the locks would be a good call. "FWP" or not, you're paying for a service and it's not only not being done well, it's being done in a way that makes you nervous.
I admittedly have a pretty low threshold for these kinds of things - but I think it's safe to say this goes way over the line.
lovelylittleworld
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For what it's worth, I hate confrontation too - but I don't think the conversation needs to be much longer than asking about what happened yesterday, getting a BS answer, and then telling her that it seems like she's preoccupied lately and you think it's best that you find someone else. I'd ask for your key back but also be ready to have your locks changed immediately.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
my thoughts exactly.
Definitely sounds like drugs - especially at that age.
Change your locks TODAY
I wouldn't even ask for the key back, I would assume that if she has a drug issue she will make a copy before it is returned. (If she hasn't already.)
I would also suggest that you may want to put a fraud watch on any of your credit accounts and check and make sure none of your checks are missing. Check your jewlery box and count any prescription drugs that you have. One of my sister's ex-boyfriends was stealing expensive cuts of meat from the grocery store where he worked because he could swap the expensive steaks and seafood for drugs.
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I know there has to be good, honest cleaning people out there, but there is so much temptation that I can imagine there are a lot of dishonest ones out there, too.
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Yes. She actually called me yesterday before I called her. She apologized profusely and said she had started to clean my house when she realized that her second job of the day needed her to be finished by 1 pm because they were having company over. So she dropped everything and rushed over there. She said she left her phone at home which is why she didn't text me to let me know. As for the doors downstairs being open she said she didn't see my cats as she was leaving and wanted to make sure they weren't locked in somewhere before she left. She said she was going to stop by my house in a few minutes to finish up. She kept apologizing and saying I must think she is really ditzy etc.....
Against my better judgement I told her to go ahead and finish the cleaning. I really didn't want to fire her over the phone when she was right there at my house with my key. Something still doesn't add up to me. The whole time I am thinking, ok, you left your phone at home, why couldn't you take 30 seconds and jot down a note to let me know what happened? I like the girl and the last thing I want to do is assume someone is on drugs because of her appearance....I know she has health problems (like maybe Type 1 diabetes?) but still the whole thing is making me uncomfortable. I am still 99.9 % sure I am letting her go but I didnt want to do it yesterday until I can change the lock, etc.
No, she's been pretty reliable for about 2.5 years. A tad flighty at times but I was willing to deal with it because she is nice, flexible with scheduling, and affordable. Just getting weirder past 2-3 months.
Is her name Megan? This sounds like the cleaning lady I had that just stopped showing up one week and wouldn't return my calls.