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BoyMom21
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Why dont you post anymore?
I'm having nest withdrawals, y'all. Sure, this means I have no life or whatever...but damn people. This board used to be swarming with posts. I started posting in 2009 and was overwhelmed by how fun and active the board was--what changed? I'm needing a fix while tiny is napping and I don't want to post on the national boards. They're lamer than it is here!
So tell me why you aren't posting. Or why you lost interest. Maybe I can attempt to give you your nest boner back. 
Re: Why dont you post anymore?
I think maybe people don't post personal things because they're afraid of being flamed? I don't know. I know there used to be a lot more drama on the board...and not really looking for that. Just trying to feel out why no one cares anymore. I mean we even used to have AEs right and left, and no one even goes there anymore. (not that I'm extending an invitation, but it was at least interesting.
What happened to MinM? OUKap? Scrapy? Lilsooner? Etc? I at least chuckled at some of their posts, whether that's what they intended or not. Sometimes a nicely timed snark fest is what I think we need.
I get what you're saying though--where's the drama, the friendly (and sometimes unfriendly) debating/disagreeing? No AEs, no snark, nothing. Sad.
Mostly because it is too hard to post from my phone and I am rarely at my laptop. Even when I was still working, I never had time to get on the computer let alone nest.
I do wonder where some of those people went though...
Maybe it has something to do with the fact that in 2009 none of us were as close as we are now? I know two groups have sort of formed here and the people in those groups have become pretty close.
I have censored myself a lot more than I used to. When Ami and Jenn posted their most recent posts (about M's daycare as the weird things going on in Jenn's house) I just texted them instead of responding here. I wanted to talk to them about it and I didn't really care for everyone here to see what I had to say.
I also have a few FB groups that I post in. Since they're on FB it's kind of a one stop shop and I just don't come here as often as I used to.
For me, when I started posting here, I didn't really have a group of friends. I had recently had a falling out with one close friend and hadn't really filled that void yet. The board provided me with a way to connect with some ladies who were well-educated and had similar ideals as me, which was nice and something I needed at that time.
However, in the last couple of years, I have formed a close bond with a group of ladies in my life and I don't feel I need the board like I used to.
I also don't harbor the same sentiments as some of those here much of the time, and given that I was part of that past drama, I have kept to myself in order to not stir things up.
I do see some ladies from here from time to time, and it's always nice to catch up, but since I see them in real life and on other outlets like Facebook, I don't need to be here much.
Honestly, I've tried to post something, anything, to stir up some debate or conversation.
I do post less about my life here than I used to, but that changed mostly when I found out my ex-husband was searching my posts and keeping up on me via the nest. Other than that, I really don't have any drama in my life these days.
I try to post often, but there are a few reason I don't post as much.
1. I don't have anything interesting to say most of the time.
2. I try to keep personal stuff to a minimum on here. It's almost too local for my liking.
3. I feel like an outsider. All of ya'll know each other. Besides JLimberg, I don't know anyone IRL.
Would you be interested in coming to a GTG? I didn't know any of the girls until I started posting. I met JLimberg through her H.
Because it's annoying as ** to pose a question/comment to someone based on their post and get no response. Example: Republicans as fiscal conservatives in the recent FFFC. I'm not trying to start crazy drama, but it's no fun without some give and take.
ETA: and because you can't say F-U-C-K here.
Honestly? I don't know how to respond to your comment. I really don't know enough about politics to feel like I can engage in an intelligent conversation. I don't keep up with political blogs, actively read the news reports, stalk P&CE, or watch every single minute of the debates. I guess you could call my comment uneducated. Which is why I don't really care to delve into it further. It has nothing to do with it being you that commented...I just don't feel like looking stupid.
If I'd spend some time reading, I'd love to talk more about it. But I haven't spent the time yet (I will, I'm sure) to know what I'm talking about to the point that I can argue my side, if I decide to take one.
Have any of you migrated to the Pro boards?
I know you can say fucckk there, okla.
I agree, I don't feel comfortable to post personal stuff here anymore. And, it is too hard to post from my phone.
Although, I promise I will be posting many house questions in the next week and following months.
I think you are pretty darn local to at least 3 of us and you should come to a GTG! Only if you wanna.
BobKat--if you're interested, you should come to a gtg! I didn't know anyone before I started going to them, but now I have some great friends thanks to stepping out of my comfort zone and going to gtg's
There just isn't much going on anymore. I might post more, but the past several times I've started a post I've gotten very little response. Which, is fine - the things I talk about probably don't interest y'all. I do miss the fun, activeness of this board.
I do wish the board were more active. I also wish there were more girls here that live in my area of the state. I feel as if OStateKris and I have become pretty good friends - we see each other quite a bit in the fall, but she's really the only one in my area.
I've posted on ProBoards a bit. Just in the Entertainment board and the GP board. Those were really the only national boards I frequented on here, so when they died, I checkout them out over there. I like the set up... it's clean and simple. And, you can drop dirty language and don't have to worry about it. It's kind of awesome.
I miss the Sports board. They don't have one over there.
I like the proboards too. I agree about the set up being clean and simple. I wouldn't mind if an OK board got started over there.
Like BobKat, I only know one other OK nestie IRL, although I feel like I know more of you since I've been on the nest for an embarrassingly long time (since 2007, y'all). I didn't become active on the OK board until 2009ish, I think. I've never been that active of a poster. I respond to posts much more than I post.
I really need to come to a GTG. I want to. It's just been hard with DH's work schedule and little man's bedtime, and my work schedule and health issues in the past. Hopefully we're getting into more of a routine around here and I can make that happen.